How exactly do I go about getting this done?

Are you the father and want to sign the rights away... or are you the mom and want to get the father to sign the rights away? The advice depends on the situation... that is why I ask.

I'm the mother wanting him to sign the rights over!

He said he would I just have to get the paper work ready! I need to know what the paper work is so I can have him sign it!

Where are you located? Have you remarried to a man that wants to adopt? If not then he can't sign over his rights. There are no forms that you just fill out you have to go to court and convince the judge it would be in the child's best interest. Generally, the only reason a TPR is granted is to make way for an adoption or if the parent is a danger to the child. There are seriously hundreds of threads on this same issue you would learn a lot by reading some of them.

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Originally Posted by TheSitterNina

My friend had a baby by a man who was married. He didn't want to tell his wife he committed adultry and had this child as well. So he suggested he sign off his rights to this child. My friend agreed. Since in her opinion it would be in the best interest of the child to not know a father who didn't want anything to do with him. So he paid her off. He gave her 25 Grand in lieu of Papers allowing him to sign off his rights "forever" to this child. Giving her NO right for future child support or anything else concerning this child. She was NOT married, nor had any plans of getting married.

This State was Oklahoma and this was a few years back. All she did was hire an Attorney and he drew up the appropriate paperwork. They both met at the Attorney's office, He signed those papers, paid her in Cash, and signed a waver to appear in court and paid her for all her legal fee's.

That was the last time she ever heard from him. And She was glad.

It's sad this happened. This boy was entitled to a Father. But he is going through life without one. And there is nothing that will change that.

Good Luck

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This is very bad legal advice and also illegal in many States - he paid her off. This gets discussed on the Board all the time - it is a crime in some States to claim you don't know the identity of the father when you actually do. I trust the taxpayers aren't supporting the child now.

I do note that much of your legal advice is based on "I have this friend and ..."

This is a legal board and the information should be just that - legal advice backed up with evidence.

I hope that your friend was not paid off, but rather the amount of child support the father of the child paid in total was $25k.

If not--they SHOULD both go to jail for baby selling/buying.

As far as the OP--Unless he's an idiot, or you have someone ready to adopt, I very highly doubt he'd sign over his rights. Parental rights and parental responsibilities are two different things, and in most places, he would still be liable for child support. Now... what idiot would sign over the rights he has to help make decisions for his child when he would still have to PAY for everything and not get anything out of it?

Aside from that, in most places a judge won't even allow it unless the parent is a danger to the child or someone is stepping in to adopt.

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Originally Posted by TheSitterNina

Furthermore as for your stating that this is a "Legal" board and all information should have evidence..... I have read the rules twice. I just went back and read them again. Nope, it's not a legal board. If legal advice is what they want, that is simply a phone call away for most. But here is what I have read, and thought I would simply copy and paste what I read here about this forum.

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I've asked a moderator to address this issue.

Hello sitter:

For liability sake, this is not a "legal" board, in the sense that we (or the owners) can be sued for malpractice...

Nonetheless, those who give legal advice here regularly, don't give legal opinions based upon what happened to their friends, or on what they heard.

If you keep doing so, you will suffer the wrath of those people who want this board to be COUNT-ON-ABLE. It's only COUNT-ON-ABLE, if one cites the LAW, and where one got the LAW.

If YOU were seeking legal advice here, that's what YOU'D want, no?

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