Originally Posted by
dtrouble
Hi
Briefly I was dating a guy for 6 months who began not making time for me and making excuses (although he txt and called round about every 2 weeks!!) At one point after not hearing from him for weeks he gets in touch and tells me that he loves me and wants to be around me more etc. anyway I finally got wise to that and decided enough was enough. So I took time to myself and after months I met a man and talked on the phone every night, txt and msn every day etc. we met up a few times - we both have kids and although we met on 2 occasions with the kids there it was very much a 'hand's off' meeting and kids were told we were just friends.
One day out of the blue he didn't txt and so I got in touch with him just to see if he was ok. He then tells me that he can't work out how we can have a relationship because we have kids and that he had involved his son in previous relationships to early and his son had been v upset by this (his sons stays with him when he is home from work 3 days a week)- after few txts back and forth told him I'd get in touch following day and see where he was at. Next day he says about kids again then says he's confused and not sure if he wants to be with anyone right now and when he gets close to someone he runs but doesn't know why but he does really really like me - so I left it at that.
I left him alone but it was him who text me initially and told me he was thinking of me and said he'd done the wrong thing by ending it. He's since txt me a few times (week or so apart) and tells me he hasn't forgotten me and thinks of me all the time etc. on one occasion I asked why we still weren't together then if we still liked each other and wanted to see if it would work long term (cutting the kids out all together) but he almost seems scared of something.
So I guess my question is what do you think I should do? I maintain a little contact txt him occasionally to see how he is and he always txts back and he also txts me now and again so I don't know if he's just worried of feelings or being with someone??
Sorry this is so long! -- any suggestions? cause I really want to spend more time with him and see if we would work longer term but don't know if i should just walk away!! :)