My girlfriend for 2 and half years has just broke up with me, I feel like my whole life is gone! She is truly amazing and I would do anything for her I love her so much! she broke up with me because we have been arguing a lot lately, she was lying to me about other guys and the last few months have been a nightmare for the both of us, but I still love her and would do anything to be with her again, she says she loves me but she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me no more, she said she wants to go out and be free and do whatever she wants without thinking of the consequences, why can't she go out and have a good time with me? I have never stopped her gown anywhere and I am pretty laid back and wouldn't dream of stopping her having fun, I can only see one difference and that is other guys, that hurts me a lot to think that she's broke up with me so she can be a slag? :confused:

I feel for you buddy, I found myself in a similar situation a few months ago. Its hard to get your head around and I know that empty feeling all to well. You must take a step back and think about things logically I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH. If she wants to go out with other guys is she worth what your going through now? Is she worth your attention or love?
Please keep your dignity intact and disappear from her life, if you remain in contact with her you'll only hurt more and she'll more than likely play on your weakness for her. Chin up mate I promise it gets better.

As the dumpee, you're not going to agree with her reasons or her reasonings. In fact, the reasons she gave may even be... to some degree... crap. When you decide to breakup with someone, not everyone can face/deliver a truthful reason. They can blow off a bunch of words in HOPES they can come up with something to make it less hard on you.

It's a waste of time. The Dumpee gets hurt, won't agree, can't understand, desperately tries to fix something that's probably not even their fault... it just is.

The truth is she's examined your relationship and found it wanting. She wants more, she wants it with someone else. Since your feelings hadn't/haven't diminished yet, you're in for a long period of painful healing.

I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you start looking forward soon. The right girl is out there, but she's ahead of you, not behind.

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I feel like my whole life is gone!

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It is not easy having to let go someone you really love and its normal for you to feel like your whole life is gone.

You say that she has been lying to you about other guys and that the last few months have been a nightmare yet you still think she is truly amazing? Those arguments seem to be contradicting each other and I think you need to take a step back and see things for how they really are.

She has already decided to move on and as hard as it may be you will have to do the same sooner or later. It takes 2 people for a relationship to work and as much as you are willing to make that effort she does not feel the same way.

This is not going to be an easy ride but the time you will need to feel better is totally up to you and it starts by accepting the situation for what it really is. And the only way to achieve this is by breaking any form of contact with her and giving yourself time to see things clearly.