I figured the issue and I don't know what's next.
Dear helper or therapy,
Me (22) and my girlfriend (19) been nearly 7 months together. We have gone through dating almost weekly while we both have jobs over the school and summer. It was all fine until then school started (college), she quit her job because she is going to have a lot of classes in her schedules and I kept on going on my job being part time instead of full time.
First week of school, I get to see her and we were just normal as it is and in about 3 days later after my 2 days of work while she is still full timer studying (I'm not, I'm part time working and part-time study) things got changed.
I'm her first boyfriend, she very sensitive and emotional and she is very nice. Generally sometime she told me like twice that she doesn't know about how really relationship works out. She always tend to learn from friend and listen from her friend. Which is a bad thing because her friend break up all the time and giving advices to her from her view... not good.
So here what happened on that day I see her again, she was not happy to see me. I meant she doesn't have and effect when she sees me just came into school. I ask why and later we had big discussion going. Later in the day she spoke to her friend which is bad idea at first. Unfair. Her friend actually mention breaking up and she went up to me told me that she has no feeling for me anymore. Then she left after asking her for a chance.
It looks like it has been started 2 weeks before school due she was working straight everyday before she quit her job.
I do love her and she loves me too saying it all the time to me past few months.
On that day in the night. I called her (I know I need to give her time) to explain what was really happening. All I can think of it's my part not being responsible in the relationship. I could not make decision for a date like ideas since she has weak immunity to weather temperature and foods. I did bring her to places and two times in a row she got sick at the end of the day. At first I did not know or believe it was the heat and I thought it was the overcrowded area too much noise for her. Also I did ask to go to some restaurant to eat out and she said no but I did not reply to ask why, bad communication. So I end up narrowing all my decision until I end up saying "I don't know" every time she asks. So it ends up forcing her to make decision for a date because I can't make up my own mind.
But lately, I figured out she actually love to go again but not on the hot temperature days. I was like "Oh... I thought you didn't like that place never go back there again".
She also mention me being lazy not willing to do anything and she said she is not attracted to guys who is lazy. Fact that I felt lazy because I was so stressed from my workplace for the past month before school started and when the time come to see her I didn't feel like to do anything but to unstressed.
Now I know my errors 1. Bad communication 2. Lazy.
I'm trying to recover this and to change my being, after phone talk she said she's fine now and she told me that she wants a long break not to talk to anyone but her family.
She is very sensitive at everything.
Now, I am curious for an answer because she said this to me at school, she has no more feeling to me. I was really depress after hearing that.
So far we talk on phone and email a bit, it's all different. There is no more love sign or like "xox" or "(kiss)" sounds on phone. More like bye and shut the phone.
Later she wrote an email back again, she wrote that I call because she know I'm worried and then she explain again she needs a break. One hour later she wrote again, that she said you can email me if you like to I can read it when I can.
I decided to write a letter by hand and give it to her on the school day.
I still haven't got any good answer that does she loves me anymore.
But what do you guys think? I need advices or suggestions. Or even something I can ask like was it compatibility problems? Bad communication?
Thank you!
P.S. I'm sorry for my bad writing!! I can't concentrated at the moment.
EDIT: Forgot to mention, she always have the idea of breaking up from friends' advices but she actually end up talking to her parent and her parent told her that she is just angry at me.
EDIT: She also mention see you on school day in her email.