Ask Me Help Desk - More relationship problems

All right so I asked a question about two weeks ago on here about my girlfriend saying that she wanted time to think. I gave her that, and things almost went back to normal, but now she is saying she isn't sure if she loves me anymore, and that she doesn't think there is much chemistry anymore. I saw her a few days ago, and it was like we always used to be before this happened, even better. I don't want to break up, because we have both invested so much time to better our relationship, I love her, and she claims she loves me but she says "i dont feel it as much anymore". She just moved here for college 2 weeks ago and that's when this all happened really. Since then I have done my best to be the best guy ever, I wrote her notes to tell her how I felt, I got stuff to show her how I felt also. I have been sweet to her, but the one thing I wanted to do was see her more. She is only seeing me like once a week because she says she wants to make friends here and focus on college. Before she said she didn't think she loved me anymore, she said she was going to put more time into seeing me. How do I fix this? I know she loves me, there is no doubt about that part, but how do I make things back to normal? What can I do to re light that spark? Please someone help me, it will save me from a lot of un wanted heart ache.

Please someone help me with this, it has eaten me up.

In my opinion it sounds like you should move on if she is stating that she does not love you as much anymore. She mostly likely putting it in a nice way which means she doesn't want to be with you. If you do believe however this is not true then maybe take a break for a while. If she truly loves you she will be on you doorsteps within a few weeks. If not then I'm sorry buddy but I think you need to let go. I hope it all works out for u. xx

You know what?

Forget that girl. I learned the lessons THE HARDEST WAYS anyone could imagine. My family was pretty involved and so was my ex's mother (her father didn't know anything.) Now, I look back and say to myself whenever I feel down... "that girl is a whore/hoe... she left me cause *her reasons*. Well, I'll prove myself that I am worthy of something." etc.

Just suck it up and find some time off with friends...

Well she didn't leave me, she said she is going to do her best to try. The thing that I am in need to do is to get to how we used to be, I know its possible. It all depends on the next time I see her, which should be anywhere from this monday-thursday. She told me the last time I saw her that she didn't really feel chemistry anymore, and if in all the past times I saw her there was chemistry, then I know I can do that again. Its really not hard to connect with my girlfriend, its really easy to get a long with her. I am just going to have to blow her away I guess next time I see her. Part of this problem are her new friends... ever since she moved here for college these guy friends have been telling her that I am not worth it because I live like 30 minutes away from her. These guys have known her for a week and I have known her for over a year... she is constantly hanging out with different friends. She did tell me though that she is going to put more time into me though.

Things never move backwards. They only move forward. Nothing is ever the way it USED to be. With change comes an opportunity to do things differently. Maybe that's what she needs. If she doesn't feel the same for you, perhaps you need to consider other options. Like being friends with her again... and keeping it that way for a while. While she's seeing changes in you, you can focus your energy on school too (and perhaps meeting new girls). I know you really "love" her, but you cannot force matters. Maybe if she sees that she might lose you she'll start wanting you more? Just focus on your needs... she's an important part of it, but YOU are more important.

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She is only seeing me like once a week because she says she wants to make friends here and focus on college.

What a bunch of hooey, she is easing away from you, and there is no fix.