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  • Aug 30, 2008, 11:46 AM
    cheetahGirrrll
    Bestfriend's exboyfriend
    Ive had this best friend for about 2-3 years now and she recently had a boyfriend that she really liked but was unsure about going out with him but I convinced her to because I thought they would be good for each other... but throughout their relationship me and her boyfriend became bestfriends. All of my friends would tell me he liked me but I didn't believe them. After awhile he broke up with my best friend because they would never see each other. And he confessed to me that he had liked me for a long time and I reallly liked him too she knew he liked me and I could tell that she was mad but she told me I should just go out with him. When I finally decided I would go out with him because I thought it wasn't going to hurt her she called me up crying because I was together with him... so I broke up with him because I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I don't know what to do we still really like each other but I don't want to lose her as a friend. Please helpp
  • Aug 30, 2008, 12:00 PM
    N0help4u
    All you can do is have a talk with her and try to get her to see it your way. It didn't work out for her and him, they are broke up so that doesn't give her any rights to him, you feel it is only fair to see where it goes with the two of you, etc...
    Tell her that you really hope she can see past her hurt to not hinder your chances.
  • Sep 4, 2008, 07:51 AM
    Gift-Of-Gab
    I don't think you should have broken up with him, I think that when you made the decision to go out with him "the damage had already been done" so to speak... so by breaking up with him you are confusing the situation more...
    It really is just up to your friend to come to tearms with the fact that he wants to be with you now, talk to her and tell her you value her opinion and don't want to hurt her feelings, if she is a good friend it will be hard for her but she will want you to be happy!

    xoxox
  • Jan 21, 2010, 12:56 AM
    confusedalready

    Well, we have the same situation. But this girl's not really my best friend, she's just a close friend of mine. Uhmmm, they had a break-up because of she doesn't like him anymore. This guy doesn't know what to do and asked me a favor to help him apologize to her. Unfortunately, after some time, we liked each other but I refused to be his girlfriend for the fact that she'll be angry at me.

    That's the main problem of us teens today. But it's your choice if you'd refuse/ break-up with him like me. Though you know that you still really like each other, it's easier if you'd stay out of trouble :>

    If you want to share stories with me, just ask me ;D
  • Jan 21, 2010, 05:36 AM
    jfo

    Guys generally have a rule they don't go after their friends ex's. Girls should have one too. It depends on how good a friend she is. If they broke up because of lack of time together, then depending who broke up with who, she may be hurt and just protecting herself telling you to go out with him, especially if she felt he was interested in you. Breakups are never easy and even harder when one of your friends dates your ex.

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