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  • Aug 30, 2008, 11:35 AM
    lesliepruett
    Terminated parental rights/adoption
    I need some advice or direction in regards to my parental rights being terminated and my daughter being adopted. Do I have any rights? What can I do? Is there any hope? I miss my daughter. Please help me
  • Aug 30, 2008, 11:37 AM
    N0help4u
    Is it Child protective services that is making you terminate?
    Did they give you a list of things and a time frame to comply?
    What is going on that it has gotten to this point for you?
  • Aug 30, 2008, 11:50 AM
    lesliepruett
    My parental rights have been terminated when I was in prison. My daughter was 5 yrs old at the time I fought hard but I messed up for too long. My daughter ask her new parents if she can see me I have not seen her in 2 years but I write her through the social worker twice a month. At court my daughters therapist testified that it would be harmful to her to totally severe the contact between us. Does my older daughter have any rights to see her sister?
  • Aug 30, 2008, 11:55 AM
    stinawords
    As much as I hate to bring the bad news... if your rights were actually terminated then you have no rights to her because you are no longer the legal parent. Her older sister also has no legal right to her unless her parents are okay with them visiting.
  • Aug 30, 2008, 11:55 AM
    N0help4u
    They should give your daughter a right to see her. At least they encouraged it with my kids.
    Since your rights were terminated there really isn't anything you can do about it but since you are allowed to write keep reassuring her that you do love her and that when she is old enough to be out from under the court order rules you really do want a mother/daughter relationship with her. Since you are allowed to write and she does want you in her life maybe you could see how much more privileges they will allow you.
  • Aug 30, 2008, 12:03 PM
    lesliepruett
    Thank you for your advice and anserws. I hope they are giving my daughter the letters I am sending her. I make copies of every letter I send and I put the in a scrap book so that when my daughter does come to find me she will know I have never forgotten her. It really sucks when someone like me gets messed up in drugs and doesn't change until it is to late. I can only imagine how hard this is on my daughter.
  • Aug 30, 2008, 12:47 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by stinawords
    As much as I hate to bring the bad news... if your rights were actually terminated then you have no rights to her because you are no longer the legal parent. Her older sister also has no legal right to her unless her parents are okay with them visiting.



    I do believe she's correct - if you are terminated, that's it. At least you are allowed to have SOME contact and you can only hope when she becomes of age she will decide to see you.

    Prison alone does not cause a person's rights to be terminated - there has to be more to it than that.

    As far as the older sister - it's the Court's decision and that of the adoptive parents.

    Again, I think you have to wait until she's of age and I'd be grateful for the opportunity to write her, even though it's through a social worker. That doesn't always happen.
  • Aug 30, 2008, 01:05 PM
    lesliepruett
    Apparently you have lived a perfect life. Of course there is always more to the story. Don't be so quick with your words and be judgemental yourself.
  • Aug 30, 2008, 01:23 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lesliepruett
    apparently you have lived a perfect life. of course there is always more to the story. don't be so quick with your words and be judgemental yourself.



    My life has nothing to do with why you lost custody of your child - you asked a legal question and more info is needed in order to give you advice.

    I repeat - being sentenced to prison is not a reason to lose custody of your child. The reason WHY you were in prison will give some insight into whether you should should/could/would have visitation with your daughter. Lots of children visit their parent in prison. Those parents don't lose their children to the system.
  • Aug 30, 2008, 01:39 PM
    lesliepruett
    Relax don't take things so personal. Attacking me and my character will only make you feel better for a minute. Have a great day
  • Aug 30, 2008, 01:47 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lesliepruett
    relax don't take things so personal. attacking me and my character will only make you feel better for a minute. have a great day

    It seems like you took Judy's accurate advice and took it personally. You then attacked her as being judgemental. All Judy has done is give accurate legal advice which is what you asked for.

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