What happens when you have read that amazing post and still continue to want him back. I am saddened by the place I am in now. It has been 6 days and I am dying inside. I actually want to buy the books that teach me how to get him back. I miss him and love him and can't believe he promised so much so fast and left that fast too. We lived together for 9 months and Friday, he simply left. I am left afraid to return to the house that I originally made for myself prior to his arrival. How do I stop the pain, the sleepless nights, the wondering if he is already with another?

I "forgot" that Tal's line about that, "Too much, too fast, too soon crash and burn."

You are not specific what happened and why. But let me tell you something, a person who deeply loves you will try to work things out and communicate not just fly away when things get rough.

Those that love us strong and do us wrong are simply as selfish as the day is long.

He has created drama by making you feel passionate and then creating a mystery, and that is what feels like love to you... if it is REAL love, he would communicate. If it is real love he would not run away with no warning. Don't let the drama fool you. DO nothing. Time will heal this wound and make more sense of it soon.

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A person who deeply loves you will try to work things out and communicate not just fly away when things get rough

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The reason being,that,they really care about you & are committed to the relationship :)

He wasn't committed to the relationship, never let someone give you empty promises. Lesson learned and you will heal and recover from this in time. Read the stickies on the top of the forum

You may want him back, but you don't need him back.
Why would you want to be with someone who does not care for you? Start NC, welcome to NC calendar thread, and begin to heal.
Best wishes!

Its only been six days, and the healing process takes time. How long have you been a couple, before you moved in together?

Thanks for your answers, but please read the entire story in my other post. Still want him... may be it will trigger more thoughts

Your still fresh from a break up, give yourself time, and don't contact him. I read your story, and sad as it is, its time to accept he was not happy, so he left.

You have to move on. Life is short and this relationship you had w/ this guy was so fleeting that in the grand scale of life, he'd register as a mere "bleep" on the scale of time. If you hurry and move on... you can waste as little time as possible healing so you can move on to someone REALLY worth your time. If you need to worry about whether a man is spending time w/ someone new then that RIGHT THERE is an inkling as to whether he's a good enough man for you.

I understand he was not happy... I understand he left. What I will not understand at least not soon is how to get him back. I can move on from this frustration and bleakness, but I cannot move onto the next person. Instead, I hope that after I seek help and calm down, may be in the future (it may even be years), he will call...

I may sound foolish, but never did this guy and I lose respect for each other. We simply did not communicate.

No more tears

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If you need to worry about whether a man is spending time w/ someone new then that RIGHT THERE is an inkling as to whether he's a good enough man for you.

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EXACTLY when you measure a relationship,by this "scale" [and it's a really
good one to go by] then if you have doubts,you will know if they are real...

... and you will be able to act upon them.