Hi!

I broke up with my ex 4 months back - we had been going out for 5 months. Even though our time was great and didn't really have any fights, we had split up simply because we thought we were just different people.

The breakup was fine until a month later, things got messy and kissed a few times over a few occasions, but nothing more.

Both of us had exams at the time, she suggested during this time we should get back together again - I said we should wait until after exams. When the exams were over, I asked her if she was still interested in trying things afresh - but she refused point blank even though admitting she still liked me.

It's been a couple months since then - and we haven't really spoken. But I think about her constantly. One side of me is saying get back in touch. But another has been so hurt by being rejected after all the drama that it feels to painful to text or email.

What worries me is that I used to be so independent and free-spirited and I can't seem to bring myself back. Any suggestions guys?

Adam x x

I think it's best if you don't make contact with her.She knows you wanted to get back with her a few months ago.
Getting in touch with her now will only hurt you.
She will contact you if she wants you.Whether she does it openly or otherwise she will not let you go if she decides she wants you back.

In the meantime plan the future without her in mind and don't wait for her to contact you.She may,she may not but assume she won't,therefore you can only be surprised,not disappointed.

You never fight before because you both don't communicate well to meet half way.Just don't go back there. She doesn't want commitment. Save yourself from pain.

What you are going through right now is understandbly difficult because you are still contacting her. Just stop seeing and contacting her.

I would just move on... you've already done some healing and it will get progressively better.

Why go back to square one?

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But another has been so hurt by being rejected after all the drama that it feels to painful to text or email.

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She undoubtedly feels rejected also, since you didn't want to get back with her when she first brought it up. Move on guy. Cutting the contact, will be good for you both, and at this time, healing is what you both need.

Breaking up because of exams, is not how loving couples deal with their issues anyway.