Hi,
I am not sure if I should ask with this topic or real estate. Long story short, husband and I got into an ugly, trivial argument. 5 days ago, I prayed and then I confessed to my husband that I aborted our baby back in feb.because of a violent argument he had with me. My reasons for what I did at that moment I felt was valid. I regretted of course. Tomorrow we planned to drive to GA to close on a mortgage. I am the borrower and he would be the co-borrower. He argued and said he wanted out on everything including the marriage. Being that the lenders are going off my income alone, can I still close on this deal without him or must he be present to sign? I can handle the bills by my lonesome, I've done it for the past 2 years. Am I making a wise decision to close on a 30 year mortgage alone? Will they allow this to happen without him? Thank u for your insight, wisdom and compassion.
Sadly,
Openpetal
P.S. here is my dirty laundry and his. He moved into my home because his living conditions were horrible. I took hm in and he is a great cook (I gained 30 lbs.), he is a cleanaholic. He argues with my chldren when they slack on their chores. We all are trying to conform to his clean ways which is good but understand chldren will be messy at times. He lost his job in June and I am getting frustrated with paying all his bills, his debts and his beer drinking habits. I fantasize on being alone again. I wasn't lonely, he was the one who couldn't cope with his loneliness. A major part of me can do without the drama, the arguments and I can live without his "good" cooking. I do want a divorce but I am scared he will get vindictive and do some sort of harm to me. He has a history where people in the neighborhood respect and fear him. I also have a history of calling 911, I told him. What is the first step to getting a divorce? I just want to quietly move me and my family out of the house without him knowing. It's quite impossible because he is on me like white on rice. It would've been easier if he was going to work. Next month, I plan to pay only my bills and credit cards. I refuse to help him with his bills. I want out. His first wife abandoned him and moved to Japan 9 years ago. I need that courage. Help. Thank you