I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We are about to have our first child and love each other very much but his family is driving me crazy. His sister is constantly accusing me of cheating on him so much so that he wants a paternity test (he says it's just to prove to them so they'll stop telling him the baby's not his). His dad uses very racial language that I can't stand but that's just some of it. I deal with it constantly because we live with them. The arguing between them about me is starting to cause problems in mine and his relationship. I'm afraid that they will convince him to leave me and our soon to be born son.
I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions or tips to help because I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how much more we can take especially since I'm due in 3 weeks.

If you're not cheating on him go through with the paternity test just to prove to his parents that he his the father of your soon-to-be-born son. Do you know why your boyfriend's sister is accusing you of cheating? Maybe she has his parents convinced.

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Originally Posted by itsastruggle_88

I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We are about to have our first child and love each other very much but his family is driving me crazy. His sister is constantly accusing me of cheating on him so much so that he wants a paternity test (he says it's just to prove to them so they'll stop telling him the baby's not his). His dad uses very racial language that i can't stand but that's just some of it. I deal with it constantly because we live with them. The arguing between them about me is starting to cause problems in mine and his relationship. I'm afraid that they will convince him to leave me and our soon to be born son.
I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions or tips to help because I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how much more we can take especially since im due in 3 weeks.

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I've never cheated on him and I know the baby's his I've told my boyfriend to do the paternity test. And I don't know why his sister keeps telling him that I think she might be mad that her son won't be the only grand child anymore but I don't know

Do the paternity test, just to prove yourself. Try very hard to stay out of their family drama. If you have to live w/ these people try and be as harmonious as possible. Not only will it make your life so simple and happy, but it will end your part in any of the drama and no one will be after you anymore. You need to focus on your baby right now... Have you heard the expression, "Actions speak louder than words"? Keep yourself OUT of all their drama, no matter what. You actions will come across like you are uninvolving yourself and in the end they will see you as a nicer person. You reap the rewards of no one being upset w/ you all the time... and harmony has the opportunity to grow.

I would also try and find a way to move out and have you own place, (either w/ the father or not). You need to bring harmony in the house... your baby is coming!