Boyfriend and I had sex for the first time on Friday, well I use the term sex loosely, he gets hard then before penetration he goes soft (sometimes during) and then says it feels like he needs to go to the toilet, every time it happened, then would go to the toilet. (which was a every single time) He is very healthy, eats well and very built so certainly not physical health, but I'm not sure what's wrong with him? Is it something that's happened to any of you? Or should I be a bit worried and get him down to an STD clinic?

Sounds like something mental. You had sex for the first time, so it's probably related to performance anxiety.

No, I don't mean first time ever, I mean first time together. We're both 22.

Yes, performance anxiety can happen with a new partner. It doesn't mean that either of you have to be virgins.

How about the 'the toilet' issue he managed to stay hard for about three minutes, to which we did have sex, but he got soft again saying it kept feeling like her had to go to the toilet, worried it might be a water infection or something? (Sorry about this! )

He may have just been embarrassed.