Girlfriend and I are on break to see if she still has feelings for old flame
I have been dating this girl for 2.5 years and got engaged. Well, our relationship had been going through the motions for sometime now. She received a letter from her ex-boyfriend of 6 years. He told her that he still had feelings for her. They haven't been together in 5 years. They had a relationship that was, suppossedly, pretty good, until the last year or so. They had a bad break up and she never got closure. Anyway, the last three months she has been thinking about him. Wondering why she still thinks of him here lately and wonders if there is something still there. I recently found all this out. She wanted her space to think. Well, we have been on a break for about 2 weeks. I told her that she can't continue to stay at home alone and just think about it, so I encouraged her to find answers to her problems. They have hung out a time or two and she says that she still doesn't know. I know they kissed and she said she felt nothing. She said she still needs more time. She is supposed to go to a football game with him this weekend and she will be in the car with him alone for the 4.5 hour on the ride there, and the 4.5 hour ride back. Can she find out the answers to her issues with him in that time or is she just wanting to spend more time with him waiting for something to develop. So far, I keep getting, "I need more time". I would not change anything so far because this break has made me realize that I put "I" before "we". This break has also made me realize that I love this girl more than ever. I miss my best friend. So, do I continue to take this punishment and hope that she chooses me or move on? She will drop me a meaningless text message or email every so often and so I am getting mixed signals. What do I need to do?