Okay, I have yet to ever file for full custody, but my son's father is popping back up in the picture again and I continue to not answer any of his calls. If we were to go to court, would not answering his calls hurt me in court? I will admit that I am trying my hardest to keep my son from his father because I feel that his father could not only harm me, but more importantly my son. My son's father seems to be mentally unstable and I feel that we have enough evidence to prove him to be mentally unstable and not capable of taking care of a child. I also would not want him to have visitation rights, but if the courts saw to it that he did, I would very much like for them to be supervised so that nothing could happen to my son. So I guess I am asking, will not answering his calls hurt my case? And another thing is, should I file for Full Custody? It has been something that I have thought about for quite some time now but never went through with it because many people were telling me that he would more than likely have visitation rights and with that in mind he would have to see his son at set times and if they couldn't be supervised visits, I would be horrified! At least right now, I have the control, it's just that I hate and despise for him to continue to pop up out of the clear blue sky talking about his son and so forth. I use to answer all of his calls the year before last, but he never expressed an interest in seeing his son. He would just ask how he is doing and hang up. He even went months before we heard a thing from him, because of that I thought he had dropped out of the picture. To be honest, he calls when you least expect him to call.

Well I don't think it will directly hurt your case but if you wanted full custody you should have filed as soon as the baby was born. Is the father on the because? What state are you in? More depends on those answers than his phone calls being answered.

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Originally Posted by Nikitamarya29

Okay, I have yet to ever file for full custody, but my son's father is popping back up in the picture again and I continue to not answer any of his calls. If we were to go to court, would not answering his calls hurt me in court? I will admit that I am trying my hardest to keep my son from his father because I feel that his father could not only harm me, but more importantly my son. My son's father seems to be mentally unstable and I feel that we have enough evidence to prove him to be mentally unstable and not capable of taking care of a child. I also would not want him to have visitation rights, but if the courts saw to it that he did, I would very much like for them to be supervised so that nothing could happen to my son. So I guess I am asking, will not answering his calls hurt my case? And another thing is, should I file for Full Custody? It has been something that I have thought about for quite some time now but never went through with it because many people were telling me that he would more than likely have visitation rights and with that in mind he would have to see his son at set times and if they couldn't be supervised visits, I would be horrified! At least right now, I have the control, it's just that I hate and despise for him to continue to pop up out of the clear blue sky talking about his son and so forth. I use to answer all of his calls the year before last, but he never expressed an interest in seeing his son. He would just ask how he is doing and hang up. He even went months before we heard a thing from him, because of that I thought he had dropped out of the picture. To be honest, he calls when you least expect him to call.

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Is the father on the birth certificate - ?

Until there is a custody order to parent in control of the child - and that's you - gets to make the decisions about everything from answering the phone on down (or up).

Yes, I would go to Court and get support ordered as well as custody before this becomes an issue. If he is a danger and you can prove it, then you would request supervised visitation.

Thanks for responding to my question and yes, the father is on the birth certificate. The issue I have with the father is you just never know what he is up to. My question about him is why all of a sudden is he calling so often about his son. He has called two and three times within a given day and he has once or twice this past weekend. I just wonder. He left a message talking about the phone records and that they will tell me that he has been calling often, but that is just this year. I note every one of his calls and they are very sporadic. He may call one month and then you don't hear from him again until the next month or two months later and just recently he has called maybe every two weeks. I just feel like something is up and I am a little on the nervous side. I got so many things going on in my life right now, that having him pop up in the picture again at this time would be more of a nightmare than I am already in.

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I didn't file anything for sole custody of my son at that time because I was still foolishly in love and we were suppose to marry there after, but after having my son, the "wool" was finally taken off my eyes and I began to see whatever one else was seeing a no good joker who was very disturbing and who also had no interest in being an active father. Months would go by without hearing a word from him and one time he told me that he lied about being in town because I was always nagging him about seeing his son. (He was a truck driver). I gave him three chances to come and visit his son and so forth but after the Thanksgiving and Christmas Seasons were over, he always disappeared. So after that I was done plus, during the last couple of times he was allowed to see him, I had to be sure that I had family and friends near by in case he tried something or did something to either me or my son. We had some very terrifying times. Where he would stop by our home unexpectedly. He use to call our house all times of day and night and stop by our house at any time which was rally scary, so scary that my son had started picking up on my fear and began to get afraid every time the doorbell would ring.

Well the best thing you really can do is get a lawyer and go to court. In many cases I would say just leave it alone but you have no custody arrangement which is not good. Did you file for support when the two of you split up? I ask because the support order and custody and visitation orders are usually done at the same time.