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  • Aug 24, 2008, 12:21 AM
    loveable
    Out with a guy
    So I want to open my heart and ask for help.
    I hanged out with a guy and he was quite okay and I felt comfartable with him. He wanted to kiss but I wasn't sure about it so I turned away each time he tried. Then at once I don't know how I found myself kissing him. It isn't that but what most is still in my mind is that he was so gentle before and when he kissed me he just like put his whole tongue in my mouth. It just ended like 3 seconds. It isn't my fault because I wasn't expecting it like his first kiss to me.
    I'm confused because afterwards he didn't even hugged me or something. We just said bye and went home. Then he was online but he didn't talk to me like he used to everyday before. Should I talk to him or what? And should I be normal like nothing happened?
    Your help would be appreciated :) thanks.
  • Aug 24, 2008, 12:34 AM
    nobuddy
    Ditch him he is no good... next time respond to their actions with more enthusiasm...
  • Aug 24, 2008, 12:52 AM
    ambyr
    Seems to me he just wanted to kiss and maybe more but you wouldn't let him so he decided to ignore you now
  • Aug 24, 2008, 01:57 AM
    loveable
    But I must tell him something because I don't want to appear like he used me =\. What should I say?
  • Aug 24, 2008, 02:31 AM
    ambyr
    Ask him what's up with you two are we just friends? Hope this helps
  • Aug 24, 2008, 02:37 AM
    loveable
    Probably he would say yes of course.
    I don't understand how people could be so half hearted =(
  • Aug 24, 2008, 02:51 AM
    ambyr
    Seems to me he just wanted to kiss and maybe more but you wouldn't let him so he decided to ignore you now and I don't understand it either some people just want things from you and you if don't give it to them "whatever it is" then they just go away
  • Aug 24, 2008, 09:01 AM
    loveable
    I'm confused as well because I don't remember how the kiss stopped or what I did during it. Is it normal?
  • Aug 24, 2008, 05:10 PM
    ambyr
    Well if you don't remember what happened during then he probably wasn't all that great
  • Aug 25, 2008, 06:52 AM
    loveable
    He really wasn't bad but he mustn't kissed like that for the first time.
    I talked to him and after a while he said if something happened to me because of that day and I said it was okey.
    I don't know if he really likes me because it's like he care about me because last night when I saw him he kept looking and even talked to me but on the other side he isn't like usual. He used to make me feel comfortable.
    Sometimes I feel like I should let him go but I'm afraid of the heartbreak. I know it may be worse later but at least I would have tried to keep holding on.
  • Aug 25, 2008, 07:31 AM
    rockerchick_682
    Well if he kissed you then he probably likes you. You two aren't very experienced kissers, so it was a bit awkward. He's probably thinking that he sucked at it so he's staying away from you because he's embarrassed. Just tell him you didn't mean to offend him, but it was new to you and you were nervous. If he can talk it out maturely then he's worth it, if not, there will always be another guy.
  • Aug 26, 2008, 06:28 AM
    loveable
    I think it's okey now.
    We talked a little about it and he said I was shy and I said till I get to know the person better.
    He did talk it out maturely.
    Thanks for the advice =)
  • Aug 26, 2008, 09:51 PM
    rockerchick_682
    Yay!
  • Aug 26, 2008, 10:55 PM
    gigi0317
    Yes its normal 1st times can be weird.I think you should just say wat's up and ask him why hasn't he spoken to you.Tell him it was weird for both of you and can you 2 continue being friends.Speaking online can be easier to say your true feelings so ask him how he feels,and you explain to him how you feel.

    I used to spill my heart out to my hubby(high school sweetheart) speaking online.LOL

    Hope this helps don't stress it boys are weird...
  • Aug 27, 2008, 04:27 AM
    loveable
    He told me that he tought I didn't have fun hanging out with him.
    The thing is that he told me I was shy... So what can I do to be less shy next time?
  • Aug 28, 2008, 03:28 AM
    ambyr
    Well if you know him better that always helps I used to be shy when my crush came too but then I got to know him better and things are looking pretty good now
  • Aug 30, 2008, 06:52 AM
    loveable
    Ok. Next time I'll try to be more confident =)
  • Aug 30, 2008, 07:46 AM
    lillycook1991
    Maybe he is feeling weird because he didn't really know what to think about this kiss
    If you weren't expecting it maybe he felt you didn't want it to happen
    I think you should just talk to him about it
  • Aug 31, 2008, 12:26 AM
    loveable
    But how should I bring the subject?
  • Sep 6, 2008, 03:09 PM
    loveable
    I thought I should let you know it's quite okey now. We are going to meet again =]

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