I've tried making love to my girlfriend like twice now but still could not penetrate her. She still a virgin though. But her Virginia is too tight. Each time I try she said it's too painful and it's getting fustrating for us. What do we do?

Hello, diehard!

Has she been really relaxed and ready as well as emotionally prepared for making love?

Thanks!

How old are both of you?

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

How old are both of you?

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That was going to be my next question for clarification to others here who come along to answer, Joe! Took the words out of my mouth! :)

We're in our late twenties

Sounds like, to me, she's not relaxed and "in the moment"

If she swears she is, she needs to go to the doctor.

If she's able to have a gynelogical exam, then she's able to have sex---it's just whether she's "in the mood" and relaxed enough to allow it.

Look at it this way---if you were going to be penetrated,wouldn't YOU need to be relaxed and totally in the mood?

FOREPLAY

Her mind is not there yet. She's not confident in this all yet.

So take your time and really get her turned on, maybe even orgasmic without intercourse.

If she cannot be moist and turned on it ain't going to work. I suggest a slow approach and frankly if she opens up to a finger(s) you'll be a lot closer... but if she isn't ready you should not be trying. I'm sure she's a healthy female. Just a cautious one. So, be a cautious and caring guy... let me know how it goes one day.

Late twenties??

Mmmm.

I would ask if she masturbates... etc. as that might give me some insight as to whether it is penile penetration she's afraid of or if it is penetration via her own fingers etc. however I get the feeling that that question would not have even been discussed beforehand-let alone whether the op and his partner are "ready" physically/emotionally/maturity-wise to be having sex..

I'm not sure...

Late twenties and he can't penetrate her. Come on Xrayman. There is something wrong with this picture.

Lube

Some more food for thought. I hope you have had a raucous romp or two in the meantime and this is just old news :-)

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You know, it could have something to do with the fact that she is a virgin. She could have emotional anxiety because of that. She may be thinking that she is inexperienced or just nervous about having sex. Talk to her, see if she truly is ready for sex. She may say that she is to make you happy, but she might not be ready at all. Get a sincere answer from her, don't just wait for the first answer and take that as the truth. And it could be that she just isn't 'in the moment' like other posts have stated. Try more foreplay then.

You can use any mustard oil mix with coconut oil. That will help both of you.

It really hurts when the hymen breaks!! Really hurts!

She just has to put up with the pain, it is a once in lifetime searing pain. :D

Look, a woman's body says no when she is not ready.

Just take your time and explore... When she is ready psychologically, her body will be ready physically. No need to rush my man.

A lot of it in this case. :)