My grandfather just passed away yesterday. I just feel so terrible because he had Parkinson's disease and I couldn't really speak to him well. I don't know how to deal with this because I never got the chance to say bye. What should I do?

Pray on it. Your granfather is in a better place and is no longer in pain. Trust that he knows you love him. Death is a part of life and we a rarely prepared for it. Tell him how you feel, he can hear you.

My father died suddenly of a heart attack. No one got to say goodbye to him either. My sibs and I and our children put together a memory book of all his favorite things like food or cars or books or sports teams plus we each wrote a page or two of special memories about him unique to each of us. We spiral-bound copies for each of us after creating the perfect cover. He's been gone since 1994, but we often talk about him and all the great things about him--and yes, his idiosyncracies too.

Writing about him helped us a lot. Maybe that could be something that will help you too.

Remember him with love. Keep him alive in your heart and memory.