I have been invited to a wedding. The father of the bride is my serious longtime boyfriend. The brides parents have beed divorced for over twenty years. The brides mother, and bride and I are friends. FOB wants me to sit with him at wedding. What should the seating arrangements be at ceremony. It is not church wedding, but at country club. Thanks in advance for advice.

You sit where the bride puts you. Talk with her.

You should sit next to your boyfriend, but ultimately, best ask the bride.

You should be seated in the front row... MOB, MOB's date, FOB, you.

You should sit with your escort to the wedding, the father of the bride. If you can all get along for the ceremony, I would suggest that both you and the husband/boyfriend/escort of the brides mother should take a seat in the front row when the other guests are being seated. Then the mother of the bride is escorted last, just before the bridal party and takes the seat on the center aisle. The bride's father then walks the bride in, and would simply walk to the far end of the front row to sit beside you. So, order would be bride's mother on the aisle, her escort beside her, you, and then the bride's father.

I don't like the suggestion that you sit where the bride puts you, particularly if the parents are paying for the wedding and are, as such, the hosts for the day. Typically the brides parents are the hosts - married or not. Hosts are not told where to put their date. Even if they are not the hosts, the bride should honor her parents enough to not cause them embarrassment and upset in their own personal relationship. Why create desention at a wedding of all places in someone else's committed relationship?