I was married to an abuser who had me drop out of school in the 10th grade. Straight out of my parents house and married him I had to divorce as he almost killed me.I ran with my kids and my life and started a new until 2000 my sons grandparents came to pick up my two sons for visitation. I wasn't told before hand I had no warning as their dad was no where in site and didn't want to be rude they drove from TX to NC they are old. Well its about a 30-40 hr ride back to tx I couldn't refuse. Even though my gut told me other wise.a couple of days later I was visited by the sheriff they asked me to go with them and they detained me and my husband for child abuse. They investigated and searched my homeafer days they found out that my ex had coerced my boys as my boys told dss that their father told them what to say. And they let us go we were detained never aressted or charged. His attorny-legal aid filed a restainging order against me and Texas gave him my babies and he hid they never did a background check a dmv report nothing they just gave him my babies based on his word and we lived in different states and had not seen each other in 3 years. I have not seen my sons since. I have called and called didn't know their address. Well Texas went ahead held court without ever giving me a notice order or anything and gave him custody of my children. I looked for attorneys had a ton on a list and found a couple for several thousand they could help. This was too much strain and stress on my husband and I and we divorced in 2002. I had two work 2 jobs to pay child support and support myself and my other two children one who is disabled. I found out by checking my credit report that I owed child support no one ever ever gave or handed me a notice until 2007 I was handed a order to pay fines for underpaying and most of it was for fees a total of 15000 which is now paid in full. He stated he and his common law wife own their home and have 3 show-cars but are on welfare and that I paid insurance and that I needed to give him that extra 180 a week to him as he already had insurance on them-medicaid.they will not let me speak to my sons. He is a fraud and I'm am at my wits end I am not the smartest but I work hard for everything I have. I have learned to search I practically live in the library when I'm not working I need to figure out a way to report everything I know my rights were taken for no reason I don't know where to look I'm am not that educated but I will find what I am looking for if some one points me to the vicinity. I had court in 2007 and the judge told me to shut my mouth he took my evidence and he was the same judge that gave him my sons and my attorney knows my ex's husbands family needless to say I have to pay more in child support my attny locked me out of my own case and I had to find out how to get him off. I have never used or abused alcohol or drugs I am just some what uneducated but I am determined to get my kids I know where he lives and the numbers to their phones but they don't answer or threaten to beat me up I report it to the attny general and that is a joke. I am trying to search for more attnys but they tell me its too late not one not even one will help I don't know what to do

It sounds like dss railroaded you and once they do that it is really impossible to get them back especially after so many years. They say after so many years you had time to be proactive and fight for them back, even when they (dss) has made it impossible for you to do so. Sounds like you need a new lawyer.
Some times all you can do is wait until they are 18 and establish your lost relationship.
Hopefully something works out for you.

Well ds started the process and proved he lied -which he also swore and signed a alfa-davit stating he feared for their lives then when ds realized he lied they dropped it they told me come get your kids and let me fend for myself.I had no where abouts and no one would tell me where my sons where as he has the prtective order still the sheriff as well everyone just dropped it meanwhile I bust my tail to pay bills car rent books school clothes for all my sons all 4 of them how can I file a motion or file a complaint on the judge my attorney his attorney all for lying making flase staments? They said they sent me papers but the name on the papers is not mine-not my address or anything and they used that in court as evidence against me. Never gave me any kind of order nothing they played court amognst themselves as I didn't exist but was not even given a chance to defend myself.

I don't understand if you were told to go get them then how are you paying child support?
Something isn't adding up.
I do know what you mean about you being ignored in court by them though cause they treated me the same way. The Judge daydreamed in la-la land and the dss literally laughed at everything they got over on me with their lies.

The sherriff who held us told us that they found out he was coercing the kids and to go get them back I called ds and they said to contact the TX court. They had already held court without notifing me as he signed a alfadavit saying he feared for their lives so they gave him the kids. With no proof no bruises no nothing.he gave the court a false address then would give his moms address not where he really lived we couldn't find him or my sons. He lives in El paso TX you can get away with murder there that is why I left. They are liars ds is a joke they get involved like a nosy neighbor who only knows half of the facts and drops it when it doesn't interest them in this case they looked like fools I had to contact them so I could get a report from them stating he coerced the kids I paid 50 dollars and it was mailed almost six months after the court and half of the information was blacked out in black marker. Every time he beat me and I called the cops they just took him to his moms house. The whole town is crooked. The attorney who represented me didn't tellme he knew them, I was told later he was the one who represented an ex who is my ex's friend so I know he threw the towel in his favor but didn't know until 1000 later and he locked me out of my case I called probably 100 times we spoke once beofre and during and haven't since just as crooked. This kind of reminds me just how they went to the town of odessa where took their kids they took in a "call" still have no proof of abuse and just took the children the only reason they gave them back was the media if it wasn't for the media they could not prove that they walked in and walked out.

Was your last custody hearing in 2007 ? How old are your children now ?
Most places don't like to hear custody matters closer then 2 years apart unless there is a change in circumstance. What you could do at the next custody hearing is request a parental evaluation. And if the courts grant it there will be much more time to explain what's been going on. That way you can get custody re-established. If they are sending him child support then they know where he is so finding him shouldn't be a problem.

My sons are now in high school.you ae right they don't want to hear anything past any date they say it is for the best interest of the children.it was an update hearing I was already paying but it wasn't enough so I volunteered a little more money and insurance for my boys. Plus I figured it would get him out of the gutter and into the light I would try to get his employment and address or license number or phone number something. When they finally let me make my statements I handed over a notebook to back up what I was stating of all places and addresses I knew of that he could have used or when he moved but since he shacks up with women everything was under their names so it was very hard to prove he didn't live in his parents home like he had previously stated they wrote letters for him his employment at hilton wrote letters for him. I took a few hours everyday when I couldn't sleep to see if I could search for him or my boys. The judge took my notes and notebooks with all my info and kept it. I have to ask for them to force visitation I keep getting the run around from the attn general I called and complained about he and his lady friend filing complaints because I call my kids since he lives in tx and I in sc it is very difficult.when we had court I went to the county clerks office and looked on the land/property and there he was along with his lady friend so we had an address. I just can't get anyone to force him to let him speak or see my kids. The last attorney I had kept my money which took me forever to work for. I had to a lot of reading this whole ordeal has aged me mentally. But I am going to do it again I don't care how much money his family gives him they can't stop me I am their MOM and I have every right to fight for my kids I think that by asking for an evaluation would be a great idea he has one way of thinking his way. The sad thing is it will take me the rest of my life to try to fix it for my kids.