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  • Aug 22, 2008, 10:58 PM
    nickeknew
    GF wants to make out me not so sure.
    See me and my Gf are hangin at a friends Tomorrow. She keeps talking (on AIM) about how we are going to make out. I really like her so I can not say no. The thing is that I never have made out with a girl and not sure I want to tomorrow. So I need help on what I should do.
  • Aug 22, 2008, 11:22 PM
    nickeknew
    Please help!
  • Aug 22, 2008, 11:30 PM
    Wondergirl
    How old are the two of you?
  • Aug 22, 2008, 11:33 PM
    nickeknew
    13
  • Aug 22, 2008, 11:37 PM
    Wondergirl
    Tell her you respect her too much to get involved physically. (She is probably as inexperienced as you, but has big ideas based on movies and TV shows and books she's read.) You have to be very good friends first.
  • Aug 22, 2008, 11:40 PM
    nickeknew
    We were very good friends I know she's experienced I think I want to just scared since I never have and don't want to mess up. Im confused.:-(
  • Aug 22, 2008, 11:59 PM
    Wondergirl
    Just tell her no. Don't let her play around with you and your body parts. Do you want to hold her hand, kiss her? Or just give her a nice hug and get her interested in something else.

    Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.

    You're only 13, for pete's sake! I held hands with guys when I was 13 but didn't get my first kiss until I was almost 16. If you do everything at 13, there won't be anything fun left to do when you're 21!

    Tell her your mentor (me) says not yet.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:01 AM
    nickeknew
    Its hard though I just don't want her to dump me.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:08 AM
    nickeknew
    Cause I really like her a lot:-{
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:09 AM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    If she dumps you for not kissing her then she doesn't really like or respect you. Tell her that you want to wait, and that you want it to be very special.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:09 AM
    Wondergirl
    So you will do anything she wants in order to keep her?? I sure hope not!!

    Tell her you like her a lot, but you two are only 13!! Tell her no. You want to enjoy getting to know her real well first. Tell her you read on chat boards all the time about how easily couples break up and it's always after the relationship gets physical.

    Btw, what does she mean by "make out"?
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:12 AM
    nickeknew
    Thx you are right! I will take your advice!
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:13 AM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    Oh good question. What does making out mean these days? When I was your age, we called it "necking"..
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:15 AM
    Wondergirl
    "Making out" is not something you plan. If she's planning this for tomorrow night, she has the wrong idea.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:17 AM
    Wondergirl
    My memory of making out is hugging and kissing a lot until you start to get sweaty and breathless.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 02:15 AM
    TrueFaith
    In my view there probable just going to kiss but see how it goes I don't think you will get a play by play action on kissing just have fun with it you are young but don't base your relationship on a kiss take it slow
  • Aug 23, 2008, 06:14 AM
    talaniman
    Be respectful in her parents house. That's a bigger deal than the making out!!
  • Aug 23, 2008, 11:36 AM
    hjpan
    WAYYYYYY TOO YOUNG!!!

    Making out =/= nice kiss
    Making out = LONG KISS --> usually leading to sex.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 12:11 PM
    N0help4u
    I agree you just tell her that a relationship is more than 'making out' and having established a good friendship is more important. If she gets mad she didn't really care enough about you in the first place and just wanted somebody/anybody to mess around with. In the long run she will end up respecting you for not being another one of those guys that makes out then breaks up.

    A kiss on the check when you leave so she knows no hard feelings is all you need to do.
    Making out from kissing to whatever is more than you need. Too much too soon is never good.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 08:22 PM
    nickeknew
    Thank you all I told her that we will stick with just kissing and she actually respected me more!

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