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  • Aug 22, 2008, 02:12 PM
    dreamwarrior
    I guy I was intamate with, was intimate with my sister two days later
    I am in love with this guy and he had sex with my sister two days after he had sex with me, what should I do?
  • Aug 22, 2008, 02:21 PM
    BetrayalBtCamp
    Dump him, don't look back.

    Take great care of yourself & make a successful recovery from having that happen.

    Find a guy that would rather amputate his penis than betray you with anyone much less your sister.

    I'm so sorry you have that double betrayal to deal with.
  • Aug 22, 2008, 02:51 PM
    asking
    I'll second that! Dump him.
  • Aug 22, 2008, 03:09 PM
    liz28
    I guess he didn't feel the same. What makes you love him? Once he slept with your sister of all people, you shouldn't even consider wanting to be with him. I mean, who's next? A cousin? Are you even in a relationship with him or you just slept with him? If you was having a relationship with him instead of relations, did your sister know? A lot is missing.
  • Aug 22, 2008, 03:34 PM
    Ivory0921
    You should dump him and never ever look back. Talk to your sister and straighten things out.
  • Aug 22, 2008, 06:06 PM
    JBeaucaire
    Why were you intimate with him? What was the point? Was it just recreational fooling around for fun, or did he manage to trick you into thinking you were special in some way?

    If it was recreational, then getting mad about him doing the same with your sister is probably not reasonable. You know? It's just more recreational fooling around. It happens.

    Getting mad at him or your sister may serve no purpose at all. If he tricked you in some way, well, those two have now done you a favor, haven't they? You know he's a player and the "intimacy" meant nothing. That's really good info to have, isn't it?

    Don't you think you're in a better position now with this information than before when he was a player and you didn't know it?

    I know you want to be mad, but I hope you get past that soon and get to the "grateful to not be blind to the truth anymore" stage.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 06:57 AM
    talaniman
    If it wasn't your sister it would have been someone else.

    Dump him, and keep any guy away from that sister of yours. She has a problem, don't make it yours.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 07:22 AM
    fjsmith81
    Sweetheart, I can tell by your post that you are young. Most women that have built up enough self esteem through life would automatically know the answer to your question. This is the unwritten cardinal rule, passed down from generation to generation of sisterhood. YOU DON'T SLEEP WITH A MAN THAT HAS SLEPT WITH YOUR SISTER. Furthermore, you don't pursue a man that has slept with your sister. I know that you weren't the one to break the cardinal rule first, so maybe you need to let your sister know the cardinal rule.
    Any man that sleeps with you and then your sister obviously has no respect for the both of you. Just move on, because obviously he has. From what it sounds like you two weren't in a relationship anyway. So pick yourself esteem off the floor and find someone that will not sleep with your sister. Actually I would not suggest that for you right now. Just focus on yourself.

    Good luck
  • Aug 23, 2008, 07:50 AM
    N0help4u
    Yep I agree with the others! He sees you are easy so he doesn't respect you as girlfriend material.
    Forget about him. He isn't worth the bother of even remembering his name.
    How can you say you love somebody that you obviously had no idea who he was or what he was like? Once you have sex with him you are only in emotional lust for him.
    You are in love with the idea of being in love---NOT in love with HIM for who he is.
    Two days later with your sister should have you realizing he is a player and has no feelings.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 07:53 AM
    joanne 1986
    Get rid of him he's not worth it,what kind of guy sleeps with one sister then the other! He definetley isn't worth the worry
  • Aug 23, 2008, 07:59 AM
    happy_jester
    Quote:

    Don't you think you're in a better position now with this information than before when he was a player and you didn't know it?
    ... The reason being,that you now know what a RAT he really is
    Instead of you living in ignorance.

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