My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 2 and a half months but lately we've been arguing. We're both in different schools and she told me she had this friend. She said she used to like him but then we started going out and she forgot about him. But lately they've been talking more often. She told me she's starting to like him because he helps her at school. But she likes him as a little more than a friend. She told me she still loves me but she likes him too. She asked me if it was okay that she went to the movies with him next weekend. I told her no because I don't want her to go because I consider that a date, and I don't want her getting to close to him. She got mad and refused to talk to me. I've done everything I can for her. When we're together I do everything I can for her. I do the best I can to fulfill her needs but I feel like that's not enough.I love her I truly do, I don't know if se loves me though. What should I do?

So lets rationalise this a little. Your girlfriend likes another guy? And she can't understand why you get angry when she asks if she 'may' go on a date with him?

Leave and keep yourself respect. Don't talk to her ever again. Block her, wait until she goes out and leave without warning. Don't pass go and don't collect £200. Cut your losses. Failure is the greatest education. If your relationship is worth that much to her, then she will find you. Surely the point here is that if she was happy in a relationship with you then she would not be thinking of guys in that way. LEAVE.

She asked you if it was okay to go out with her friend but got mad when you said no.
She was hoping you would be okay with the just friends story but since you didn't buy it she is going to do what she wants any way and that sounds like choosing him over you.
Consider her your old girlfriend. He has the advantage since he is there and you are distant.

I think the distance has got you at a real disadvantage here, and she want to have fun, and you can't be there for her, so she has a friend.

Her mind was made up before she asked you if it was okay, so take it as a sign to get out of this situation, before it gets worse.

What do you do? You tell her goodbye, go live your life how you want to. She is going to end it with you or cheat on you with this other guy, he has home field advantage right now and nothing you can do changes that

It don't sounds like she love you or maybe she doesn't understand the meanings of that word. It's time to move on and leave her in the past and meet someone that wants you and only you. She proved to you what type of person she is. By the way, what are your ages, because this sounds very high school.

Even if you were there, would you really want someone to treat you that way? As the other posters said, she wants you to buy the "just friends" story so she can more easily juggle the 2 of you. She dropped the ball on being a good girlfriend the way you have been a good boyfriend.

Let her continue to play her games without you being a part of them. There is someone who will appreciate all the great qualities you have to offer & won't make you keep auditioning for the boyfriend part the way this one did.

I know it hurts right now but it will hurt even more to be more deceived & cheated on. Once is more than enough for that sort of stuff. Be glad you got out when you did, it could have been worse if you had stayed with someone so unfaithful & disloyal for years especially if you had kids together before it all fell apart.

Granted, you are both young but even so, being honest & faithful are things that you can easily get in someone else & are entitled to. You managed to be truthful & loyal to her, right?

I'll tell you a trick that works with almost any girl. These steps may sound counter intuitive however, this does work. This is if the girl decides to breakup with you, here is what you do.

Step 1: Agree With The Breakup!

You have to get on their side. When they break up with you then you should say "You right, breaking up is the best thing for both of us." You want to say it in a calm tone.

If you have already tried begging or doing any of that other stuff then I would suggest writing a handwritten letter saying "Hey, sorry for going crazy on you after you broke up with me. You were right, that was the best thing for us to do."

(Note: You don't want to over do it however, you could add "Your right, I've been thinking the same thing for a while now." This would depend on what caused the breakup.)

Step 2: Cut off all communication with your ex.

Give both you and your ex space. This will give both you and your ex time to think. When/if your ex does call you, don't stay on the phone for too long. Make it seem like your busy even if your not and you want to have a friendly tone. When and if your ex calls say something like "Hey, its great to hear from you! I'm very busy and I don't have much time to talk. Maybe we can talk later. I don't have a lot of time to talk right now"

If your ex calls and wants to meet you over coffee or something like that then you should say "Maybe, that sounds good. When would you like to do it?" Don't get too excited. Stay calm and keep a calm voice.

Remember, you want to cut the conversation short. DON'T tell them why your busy. Doing this will make you seem mysterious and interesting instead of predictable and boring. This will also make your ex go crazy and you will be on their mind often.

(Note: If your ex doesn't call you after about a month or 2, then you could call them and say "Hey, I just want to thank you for what you did. You really helped me" Don't tell them what it is until they either call back or you see them in person. If your going to do this your going to have to think of a reason to thank them.)

Step 3: Focus on Yourself

Try to improve yourself. Like clearing up/reducing your acne, improve your hair, shave if needed, etc...

Step 4: Go out and have fun.

Hang out with your friends again. Seek the kindness and support of others to help you get through this difficult time. Take up a hobby. You can also take up a sport. Sports don't give you much time to think which is good because it will keep you busy and keep you from getting depressed thinking about your ex.

(Note: This may help OR it may make things worse and I wouldn't risk it but if your not making any progress at all with these other steps than you can try dating other people. You can let your ex know if you want. One of two things will happen, Your ex will start getting jealous even if they don't admit it or show it and they will fight for your love OR they might try to move on because they might think they don't got a chance. This is why I wouldn't recommend this.)

Step 5: Meeting Your Ex.

If you and your ex haven't planned a meeting since a month or 2 after the breakup then call them up and plan the meeting. When you guys do meet, just act normal. Don't get too excited or anything. After meeting them wait about a week or 2 to meet them again. After meeting them a second time, wait about a couple of days to meet them a third time. Now, if you guys have been getting along and your ex hasn't asked you out by now then you should ask them out. Most likely, the reason why they haven't asked you out is because they either think your going to say no and/or because they are shy and nervous. If they have asked you out, then of course say yes.

If she really loved you, she wouldn't ask to go on a date with someone else.
If it was really just friends, she wouldn't have gotten mad when you didn't approve.
You think about what that means.

As everyone else has suggested, it's time to cut the rope. Let her go. Get her out of your life, walk away and don't look back. You may care for her, but she doesn't feel the same for you, and you'll only hurt yourself more by trying to believe she does.

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Step 1: Agree With The Breakup!

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What if they don't care whether you agree or not? What if they say, " Good, now get out and stay out"?

That post is out of one of those "guaranteed to get your ex back" scams.

Read our stickies, we won't tell you that you will get your ex back, but I will put my money on having you feeling better if you give it enough time and listen to our advice