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  • Aug 18, 2008, 07:58 AM
    cutietoshoes
    Love For a Gay boy
    Hey. My name is Meghan. I have a full-blown gayhalf brother named Tre. My dad wants to get a divorce from his wife because she lets him be a girl and he thinks it's a disgrace. Should he divorce her because of my brothers ways?
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:09 AM
    excon
    Hello Queenie:

    No, she should divorce him because of HIS ways.

    excon
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:09 AM
    N0help4u
    It sounds like your dad and step mom may have more problems and issues than just your step brother.
    It will be your dad and step moms decision and only him and your step mom know all the details of why they want a divorce.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:21 AM
    cutietoshoes
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by excon
    Hello Queenie:

    No, she should divorce him because of HIS ways.

    excon

    The reason he wants the divorce because she lets him have sex with boys in the house, dress drag, smoke, and all types of crazy things, and my dad is tried of her letting him kill his self. The marriage was going good until my brother had a life change, and a very drastic one
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:27 AM
    excon
    Hello again, Queenie:

    Sh*t happens. Life is not like TV.

    excon
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:38 AM
    cutietoshoes
    Love for a gay
    To add to my earlier question how do I love a full-blown gay who has turned my life into a havoc? He doesn't listen to me he is only interested in gay things. I am hetrosexual, not only to mention he is 16 and I am 17.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:47 AM
    N0help4u
    What things does your step brother do that you hate that have nothing to do with his gay choices? I know you mentioned he is having sex in the house which I don't think any kid should be doing in their parents home. Other than the sexual things what ways do you and he not get along?
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:47 AM
    excon
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cutietoshoes
    how do i love a full-blown gay who has turned my life into a havoc?

    Hello again, Queenie:

    He's your brother. Love him cause of that - nothing more. No, he's not going to live up to your ideals - but you're not going to live up to his either.

    excon
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:48 AM
    Choux
    When I was a social worker, I had a very good friend who was gay and he told me he had some women friends in college who tried to turn him hetero by having sex with him.

    From *his lips*... gay guys don't like to have sex with women, they never will like it. The best you can hope for is a friendship. Don't become a "fag hag"... find a man who is interested in you as a sexual being.. a guy who doesn't want to exploit you.

    Best wishes, :)
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:51 AM
    Synnen
    Moved from Adult Sexuality because the OP is not over 18.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 08:53 AM
    N0help4u
    Here is the other post

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/divorc...oy-250129.html
  • Aug 18, 2008, 09:35 AM
    talaniman
    How old is he?
  • Aug 18, 2008, 09:37 AM
    N0help4u
    16 she is 17

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ay-250144.html
  • Aug 18, 2008, 09:41 AM
    talaniman
    Accept him for who he is, a spoiled indulged youngster, he does sound a bit out of control, per your other post. Your mom lets him have way to many liberties for a 16 year old, but that's has nothing to do with him being gay.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 09:45 AM
    talaniman
    Your dad is right as, your step-brother has to many liberties, and not enough discipline! 16 and having sex in the house?? Never. This has nothing to do with gender identity, that's irrelevant, but obeying the boundaries set by the parents is another question. Can you have sex at home, and smoke??
  • Aug 18, 2008, 09:47 AM
    N0help4u
    Yeah really and I am sure dad doesn't want the conflict of why can he and not me as well as the bad influence of kids not having boundaries
  • Aug 18, 2008, 10:18 AM
    cutietoshoes
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u
    What things does your step brother do that you hate that have nothing to do with his gay choices? I know you mentioned he is having sex in the house which I don't think any kid should be doing in their parents home. Other than the sexual things what ways do you and he not get along?

    He uses me to do bad things, he puts me in the middle of his shanagains it is a long list
  • Aug 18, 2008, 10:21 AM
    N0help4u
    I think your dad sees all this and wants to get you out from under it.
    Your step mom is allowing way too much to go on and your dad may have thought that when they married he would have a say but it looks like he doesn't and his not having a say is even to the point that he doesn't have a say in how things go for you.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 10:32 AM
    cutietoshoes
    Comment on Choux's post
    HE is 16 not 30 his life has limits

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