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  • Apr 20, 2006, 04:53 PM
    dragonfaelynn
    Um.. I just don't know what to do.. Care to help?
    Ok, I broke it off with my boyfriend of 3 months because I was listening to everyone else telling me that he didn't treat me right and that he was always cheating on me. I heard that stuff from girls completely obsessed with him, and my mom told me to break it off and then my best friend, who used to be his girlfriend for 2 weeks, told me that if I didn't, she would. I don't know what made me do it, but I just got too fed up. I loved him sooo much and still do and he said that the only way to get him back is to be committed and basically be how I wasn't. I told him on the phone that I still loved him and put myself down all over the place, but he was kind of an *** about it.. Now, he has a date to prom with one of my friends and he told our mutual friend that I need to care and actually try to get him back because since it was my fault, he shouldn't have to. Every time I see him walking with her or dancing with her or someone else, I feel like tearing up. I'm told every day that he loves me soooo much, almost more than anything, and yet, he doesn't show it. I have a plan to hang with him on Sunday just as 'friends', but I don't know what to do to get him back. Any ideas on how to help me?
  • Apr 20, 2006, 05:52 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    What do you mean by "put yourself down all over the place"?

    Next was he cheating on you, if all your friends say he was, most likely he was, and no you don't want to be committed to someone who is still dating someone else to the prom. You could start dating him again, but committed comes with time and proff it should happen.

    And honestly, if he does not just want to come back, you can't do anything to make him come back.
  • Apr 20, 2006, 10:42 PM
    Hypatia
    Would you want someone your friends and mom said was cheating and bad for you back?? If he took another girl to the dance and rubbed it in your face, he isnt worth dating in the first place.
    You are in high school yes? You will have several boyfriends in your lifetime. Do not settle for average when you can hold out for great. I know you love him, but I can almost promise you that you will not marry him.
    So why make things complicated? Do good enough in school to attend college. There you will be ready to have a great relationship, date a real man who isnt so petty, and have fun. Right now date who you want with no heavy strings. if you break up dont cry for days, another will be waiting in the wings for you.

    Hypatia

    150 men and women come and gone and finally I found my soulmate!
  • Apr 21, 2006, 02:57 AM
    DJ 'H'
    This guy sounds like a real a------. Seriously, you don't need this guy! You are young, boyfriends will come and go. Just enjoy your youth and be yourself. Life is not sup[posed to be full of misery and regret.

    You made a decision - now you have to stick to it. Move on and have plenty of fun. Trust me; soon enough you will meet someone else who will toatlly sweep you off your feet and when that happens you will know exactly where I am coming from and you will wonder what you ever saw in this guy to begin with. ;)
  • Apr 21, 2006, 04:51 AM
    talaniman
    This guy doesn't love you at all ,but is trying to show everyone he can CONTROL you and do anything he wants! Stay away from him and PLEASE watch who you call friend. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve better! Good luck!:cool: ;)
  • Apr 21, 2006, 05:01 AM
    fredg
    HI,
    First, 3 months isn't really enough time to "love" someone. You are just beginning to get to know him. Do you like what you know about him up to this point?
    If not, then forget about him, and find yourself someone who cares for you... he doesn't. Best of luck.

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