Abot six months ago I came in contact with an ex-boyfriend from high school through classmates.com we started communicating via email and still are. I actually got to meet him a couple of weeks ago in person. He is currently married and so am I. Both of us are currently in marriages that are just that in name only no intimacy our partners are just there. Do you for see this going anywhere in the future?

Being a person that is currently going through a divorce, let me tell you that they are horrible. Even though mine is not as bad as others, it is still a tough emotional journey. Instead of looking for ways that this old flame satisfies you, invest in your marriage. When you are feeling empty in your marriage, anyone can appear to fill that void for you... but it is just a mirage. The fulfillment that you feel with that new person now will fade and you will be right back where you started. Instead of spending energy imagining what could be with someone else, take that energy and invest it in ways to bond again with your husband. Perhaps consider a marriage retreat or counseling to help pin point those problem areas that are leading to intamcy issues. That is where you will find the true joy of fulfillment. Good luck!

I see trouble in the making. Instead of bringing someone else into your marriage problems....fix or end your current relationship first. An affair between you both will only be a quick fix to something you are needing. Like when you have a craving for a candy bar while on a diet, after you ate it you feel bad and have to start all over.

Communication from the heart with your husband about intimacy is very important. Intimacy is a crucial ingredient in a happy relationship. Maybe there is something you can do to rekindle that flame of intimacy with your husband. Ask yourself what it is you can do?

Oooooooooooh... Bad contact decision - but that's done now. Neither you nor your husband should be contacting people of the opposite sex unless you have said all is over and done and are going through a divorce.

How would you feel if your hubby reuinited with some hotsy totsy flame from his past? Would you feel as if he was giving your marriage the respect it deserves before letting it all get washed up? This would never settle anything and could possibly ruin the chance that your husband and you can fix things. Tread lightly now and think of you how would like to be treated in return. The Golden Rule does apply!

I see friendship or less.. anything more could become a real disaster you guys are both married even if it is just in name let it go if you and your ex where suppose to be together you would have been before you found your partners

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Yes as when two unhappy married people get together they tend to stop working on their marriage, and they get selfish and caught up in each other and go through misery and pain, until both families suffer even more than ever.

Sounds like you want this to be a happy ending, but for someone it won't, and usually that's the unknowing innocent party at home without a clue, especially the children.

Your marriage is what you make of it, so don't be distracted from that, go or stay. Just don't be stupid!!