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  • Aug 16, 2008, 08:37 AM
    DjZskittzoh
    Confused and I don't Know what to do
    I have been with a girl now for a year and she is now 4 months pregnant. I don't no what to do. My emotions and feelings are all over the place and are all coming at me at once. I've tried talking to my family but they keep telling me to get on with it. I can't talk to her family because I don't get on well with her parents. Im just so confused and I have been breaking down in tears everyday without warning. I want to stay with her and I still want to be the babies father but I just don't know how to deal with the emotion part. I would appreciate as much help and advice as possible. I'm only 17. I'm technically a kid raising a kid. Cheers guys
  • Aug 16, 2008, 08:52 AM
    N0help4u
    You are going to have to go out and get a job asap so you can work on saving money to support the baby whether you stay with her or you break up you need to start by getting financially responsible. You need to discuss what you and her both want, make goals and plans and do the responsible things that anybody has to do. Your emotions are not good to let them take you over you need to look at the over all picture and go on that.
  • Aug 16, 2008, 09:56 AM
    DoulaLC
    Just to add on to what NOhelp4u said... try and find an outlet for your emotions. Talk to friends, trusted adult, perhaps even a counselor. Get some regular exercise... go for runs, bike rides, something that gets you moving. Some people find writing their thoughts down helps them to get things out and deal with issues better.

    Your life is changing in ways you probably never thought it would at this stage... but you can make some very good choices in how you manage those changes. It is no doubt a stressful time for everyone involved, but the point is, don't neglect to take care of yourself along the way.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 02:21 AM
    DjZskittzoh
    Thanks Nohelp4u and DoulaLC. I do have a half decent paid job so I think I'm OK in that way. But its all the worries about her and the unborn baby that is causing all the stress. I think I will try to talk to a counselor. And I will take that advice of going for regular exercise. I think it will help to unfog my mind. Thanks guys. I really appreciate the help.

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