Well the man I fell in love with just called me and said that he doesn't want a relationship right now and before he said that he needed space well gave him the space and today he and I broke up. I can't believe that I allowed another but head into my heart after seven years you would think that I would know better than that well I guess that no matter what they will always brake you at the end I can't see why I didn't see this in the beginning, I guess I did go into this with my eyes shut well he freakin opened them again and made me a stronger person. I give up on this love crap cause I always wind up getting hurt oh well back to work I go nothing new life is still here. I HATE MEN!!

Not all of us are self centered A wholes... I'm sure he doesn't want a relationship right now due to AIT and everything that's going on inside him. The military will change anyone, even if you don't want them to... You shouldn't give up on love... there is someone out there for every one of us, and yeah, I can't fix mine... yet, I'll try like H until she sees what she is losing. Don't give up hope... once all hope is lost, then what's next?

Ha AIT my a.. I am just so mad that he couldn't tell me this a long time ago he had me here waiting like a dumb I sware that I am never going to do this again and that is the truth. I have my kids to worry about I don't need another one which I'm sure would have wound up being him. Well I hope that he is happy and that he does good in life. There really isn't anything I can say good about him other than he was a very nice man and had a big heart but he sure does know how to hurt everyone else around them. Now I just need to figure out on how to tell my kids that he is not going to be there dad, they were really looking forwards on having a dad

You never know what could happen. When I was in basic/AIT and for about 2 weeks after I had broken up with my girl, who I'm losing now too. But when I realized how much she actually meant to me, I asked for her forgiveness. She gave it to me and I never looked back. I almost broke up with her during my tour in Afghanistan because I didn't want her to lose me like that. Thankfully, I made it home safe and she didn't have to see a flag draped coffin.

Wow that is very touching. Well he just tried calling right now like five times but he was calling from a friends phone from North Carolina I know that that is him cause no one else calls me from other places. Well then he called three times from his phone I still didn't pick up. I think that I need the space now. I don't want to talk to him at all he really hurt me. I don't think that he will miss me at all he probably is having the time of his life cause if he really loved us he would want to hear from us as much as possible but he doesn't.

Should I pick up? Hold on...

well I just text him and asked him to please stop calling and we don't need to talk there is nothing to say. That he already said and did enough.

Then I called the NC number and some guy named chad picked up and said that it must have been my man calling he used his phone then he asked who was this I said that this was j.r. x girlfriend just wanting to see who was calling so much that I missed the calls.

Then he text back why am I calling his friend? Ya what a di-k head huh
What is his prob??

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You never know what could happen. When I was in basic/AIT and for about 2 weeks after I had broken up with my girl, who I'm losing now too. But when I realized how much she actually meant to me, I asked for her forgiveness. She gave it to me and I never looked back. I almost broke up with her during my tour in Afghanistan because I didn't want her to lose me like that. Thankfully, I made it home safe and she didn't have to see a flag draped coffin.

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Hey what part of Texas are you from?

My wise grandmother used to say "men are stupid and girls are mean"...

That was so true so much of the time, in my experience.

All you can do is all you can do... which means be good to yourself and good to your kids.

Question... you were together for a long time. Lived together? No promise or interest in marriage from him? Having been through a 7 year relationship that seemed "destined" for marriage and then crashed and burned, I get how sometimes time can just fly by. Most will say 7 years is a LONG time to be in limbo... but I've been there and done that myself.

All I can tell you is I had two women crush my heart... thank God they did. I'm ten years on now with a wonderful woman (who was a single mother when I met her) and thank heaven the past is the past.

I know you need to rant and maybe take it out on a heavy bag right now. Vent. Its good for you. Get mad. Let it out.

Then lets talk about the relationship and how things didn't progress over several years.

Army girl, I'm from Oklahoma, but I now live in West Texas

Don't pick up and don't call him.

Make him chase you down.

And really... even then he just might want the comfort of knowing you are "still there" for him.

Screw that.

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my wise grandmother used to say "men are stupid and girls are mean"...

that was so true so much of the time, in my experience.

all you can do is all you can do... which means be good to yourself and good to your kids.

question... you were together for a long time. lived together? no promise or interest in marriage from him? having been through a 7 year relationship that seemed "destined" for marriage and then crashed and burned, i get how sometimes time can just fly by. most will say 7 years is a LONG time to be in limbo... but ive been there and done that myself.

all i can tell you is i had two women crush my heart... thank God they did. im ten years on now with a wonderful woman (who was a single mother when i met her) and thank heaven the past is the past.

i know you need to rant and maybe take it out on a heavy bag right now. vent. its good for you. get mad. let it out.

then lets talk about the relationship and how things didnt progress over several years.

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Well we haven't been together that long but I was in a relationship before him and lasted nine years then got hurt there then was single for seven years. We have talked about marriage actually he and I were ingaged but doesn't look that way anymore. Huh!

Well I'm not going to pick the phone up he can call all he wants cause he really messed up I don't want to go through this again it took me a long time to get my heart back together and then I met him and this is what happened go figure

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Army girl, I'm from Oklahoma, but I now live in West Texas

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Ok I have a friend that is stationd out there in Oklahoma in Tinker (?spelling) well anyway how do you like tx? It sucks huh the weather is bad.

Well he hasn't called back I thought that they had to go to bed early and what happed to the bed checks doesn't that mean they have to be in bed? Oh well why would he call from friends phone anyway? Then get mad if I called it back he was the one who called me first from that phone who doesn't return a call that looks diff you never know who it could be