My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about a year. When we first began, we both didn't really know what we were doing and didn't have a lot of forplay. He was able to go multiple times in a night at this time. Within the last month sex became unbelievable. We both were enjoying it 100x better and know what each other likes. Within the week or two, he has been getting soft during intercourse. I know he is into it, but I'm really worried he is not into me anymore, which he denies. We have talked about it and neither of us know what's wrong. I've tried trying new things, and I'm all out of asnwers. What is causing this? Is it going to last forever? Is there anything he or I can do?

Has he seen his doctor?

There are quite a few medical reasons for this, and he should be checked out for THOSE before you start taking the blame on yourself for absolutely no reason.

Girl,

The penis is a foolproof gauge in young guys. If it goes soft during sexual intercourse, the kid isn't turned on enough at that point. My advice is that intercourse should only last 3-5 minutes... are you two going a lot longer than that? Ironically, it is normal for a guy to go soft from trying too hard to be erect.

With your history of sexual satisfaction according to you, you have to get him to be straight with you about what is going on.

Best wishes,

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Originally Posted by Choux

Girl,

The penis is a foolproof gauge in young guys. If it goes soft during sexual intercourse, the kid isn't turned on enough at that point. My advice is that intercourse should only last 3-5 minutes....are you two going a lot longer than that?? Ironically, it is normal for a guy to go soft from trying too hard to be erect.

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LOL When I was young and seeking "experience" my penis often knew before my mind did when something wasn't really right.

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Originally Posted by Choux

With your history of sexual satisfaction according to you, you have to get him to be straight with you about what is going on.

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True, assuming that he knows what's going on. He may be just as clueless as you are. The penis sometimes seems to have a mind of its own.

He is definitely turned on enough, he always wants to have sex and is extremely hard before we even start. And he doesn't know what's going on. We've talked about it, and he is as clueless as I am. He says he's really into it and it feels great, but it just happens!

How old are you, How old is he? What else does he have going on in his life? Like stress is he a cyclist... etc.

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Choux disagrees: Don't parse my answers and criticize them, MrDefensive--talk to the questioner, PLEASE!

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I didn't criticize your answer, I agreed with it. And I did talk to the questioner. Sheesh!

My boyfriend just had the same problem. We have been together for 3 years now and he has never gotten soft during intercourse but last week he did. He was embrassed and felt really bad and swore it wasn't because he wasn't turned on. -I believe that we went on to long. Could that of been what his problem was? Like since he wanted to "nut,***" and didn't, just decided to keep going I believe that it could have gotten "tired" I don't know if that helps or anything. But good luck with finding out.