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  • Aug 15, 2008, 02:48 PM
    HighandDryinnNy
    Date won't return cell phone
    Ok so here is my current dilemma -
    I went on a date with this guy- first date, and he seems like a great guy, personality,good job, nice car, the whole nine
    I left my cell in his car - didn't realize until halfway home when it was too late
    So I aim him and make arrangements for him to drop it off the next day, since he was coming this way anyway
    The next day comes, no show
    I use my roommates phone to call him, no answer on three occasions, no returning text.
    Finally, one in the a.m. my roomie gets a text from him saying that he's so sorry, we wouldn't believe what happened - said he'd drop the phone off today
    Called him today, no answer
    Plus a lot of my daytime minutes have been used, I checked online
    I need my phone back and I'm not sure what the deal is
    Any advice?

    Oh yeah, a little background - we were supposed to go on a date before the other night, I ended up not contacting him, and didn't call him till the next day when I told him that something crazy had happened to me that's why I didn't call - just seems funny that he has pretty much the same story I gave him
  • Aug 15, 2008, 03:08 PM
    shane38
    Sounds like he's trying to spite you. Phone him and tell him if he doesn't return the phone within 24 hours you will phone the police and report him for stealing it
  • Aug 15, 2008, 03:19 PM
    progunr
    I doubt the police will get involved in this dispute, they will consider it a civil matter since you left the phone in his car.

    You need to call your service provider and have the phone shut off.

    Once he can no longer use it, he will probably be more inclined to return it.
  • Aug 15, 2008, 05:51 PM
    N0help4u
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shane38
    phone the police and report him for stealing it

    The police here do not get involved in stuff like this especially when YOU KNOW who has it.
  • Aug 15, 2008, 07:22 PM
    flash84x
    That's pretty lame, really lame actually... I'd call the service provider and have the service suspended and then make arrangements to get it back asap, and then tell him to screw off haha
  • Aug 15, 2008, 07:51 PM
    ylaira
    Have police trace his calls make him pay for it, then wave bye bye to klepto date.
  • Aug 16, 2008, 03:55 PM
    HighandDryinnNy
    OK he finally sent a random i.m. saying he had to return to work - 4hrs away and sent the phone from the hospital he worked at in the mail
    I mean a phone call wouldve been nice, and I don't live that far away that he couldn't have dropped it off
    guess our date didn't go as well as I thought
  • Aug 16, 2008, 03:57 PM
    N0help4u
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ylaira
    Have police trace his calls make him pay for it, then wave bye bye to klepto date.

    Like we stated already the police will not get involved.
  • Aug 16, 2008, 04:01 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    It's one thing for the date to go badly... it's another thing to not return the phone you left.

    I mean, even in extreme cases, if a girl left her phone in my car, I'd think, "wow, she must be desperate to want to see me again." but even then, I'd STILL give the phone back.. . yowza. Jerk.

    (ps - this is for nohelp... you should call the police (just kidding, don't. They won't do jack))
  • Aug 16, 2008, 08:10 PM
    HighandDryinnNy
    It wasn't intentional, I swear- I mean, it was a great date and all but I'm certainly not that desperate. I just hope it arrives soon.
  • Aug 16, 2008, 10:56 PM
    ylaira
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u
    Like we stated already the police will not get involved.

    Why not? I left my thing and the place owner don't want to return it and using up my minutes??
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:07 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    Well, in the end, it's "she said, he said" and no offense, but the police... have better things to do with their time than to deal with a case that ends up being a few dollars... right?
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:13 AM
    ylaira
    She should have gone to police at the day the guy refused to return the cellphone and they will trace his calls. It's their job to help if someone is asking for help.Also call the telephone company and cut the line.
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:32 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    Not sure how things are in Manila, but in the states, the cops... won't waste time "tracing" someone's calls unless it's of somewhat importance. Tracing a call costs time and money... and by her actually LEAVING it in someone's car, it becomes a "he said, she said" situation where she could just as easily be trying to "track her ex boyfriend" or anything of the sort. Tracing the calls only apply to relatively serious cases.

    But yes, cut the line... works.
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:49 AM
    Mya33
    Hey,
    I actually think that he stole it cause it pretty much satisfies the three elements of stealing 1)taking or converting 2) property of another 3)with fraudulent intent. Therefore this is a 'criminal' not civil matter and you should definitely contact the police and have him pay back all the money he wasted. Just in case though call your service provider and have them cancel your account.

    You can do better then him :p

    Good luck!
    Xx
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:51 AM
    Mya33
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
    Not sure how things are in Manila, but in the states, the cops...won't waste time "tracing" someone's calls unless it's of somewhat importance. Tracing a call costs time and money...and by her actually LEAVING it in someone's car, it becomes a "he said, she said" situation where she could just as easily be trying to "track her ex boyfriend" or anything of the sort. Tracing the calls only apply to relatively serious cases.

    But yes, cut the line...works.

    Good point. But he is still guilty of stealing and he can easily be charged and that's what he deserves.
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:53 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    But she left it in the car... who can prove that he stole it?
  • Aug 17, 2008, 02:07 AM
    Mya33
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
    but she left it in the car...who can prove that he stole it?

    Hmmmmm I'm not sure... but the law states three elements must be fulfilled right? And well here they are in more detail:

    1)Taking and converting-means physical movement of the thing. Converting means dealing with the property in a way that is inconsistent with the rights of the owner. i.e. using her mobile and wasting her money.

    2)Property of another person- this means that the property in question can be moveable or capable of being made moveable. i.e. her mobile phone is moveable right?

    3)fraudulent intent- must accompany the taking or converting. The most fraudulent is to permanently deprive the owner of the thing (i.e. not returning the phone and thus permanatly depriving her of it) Another fraudulent intent is to deal with it in such a manner that it cannot be returned in the same condition in which it was at the time of the taking and converting. ( so if he damages it, which I doubt he did)

    So yeah that's Australian law and I doubt its any different in the USA because stealing is just so common and is usually dealt with like that.


    Xx
  • Aug 17, 2008, 02:12 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    But... what's to say she didn't leave it?

    If she did leave it... then it's owner's neglect.
  • Aug 17, 2008, 02:25 AM
    Mya33
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
    But...what's to say she didn't leave it?

    if she did leave it...then it's owner's neglect.


    Yeah but he physically moved it, used it (it's not his) wasted her money... and because of that I think he's guilty of a crime.

    However I do see your point because she does owe a duty of care and she has breached it and damage has occurred ( to herself). But the fact that he is using it makes him guilty of a crime more then her because she can defend herself by saying it was an'MISTAKE OF FACT '

    MISTAKE OF FACT (s24) is a defence used in cases and I'm sure she didn't leave it there on purpose.basically it means honest and reaonable but mistaken belief in the existence of any state of things bla bla... basically the court goes through this process and discovers that it was an honest mistake ( I believe she didn't leave it there on purpose so it was) and yeahh..

    But I doubt the onus of proof will be on her I bet he will be the one that has to prove to the court he didn't steal it .


    Newais I'm off to get a shower but interesting talking to you!


    Xx

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