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  • Aug 15, 2008, 01:16 PM
    iDish
    What to do when you have a fetish?
    I have a fetish that I don't really know how to address. But the fetish is really cramping my style. I want to be a normal college girl. Date guys. Maybe mess around on occasions. Gush about how cute that guy is over there. But I'm just not attracted to the type of guy that the rest of the world sees as attractive. I hate young. I hate athletic builds. I hate 6 packs. I hate short men. I hate full heads of hair. I hate thin and I HATE circumcision (It just looks unnatural). I'm just not attracted to men with those features. I like older men. Mid 40's to mid 50's. Beer bellies. Receding hairlines. Thick arms and legs. Perverted men. Men with body hair. Thick necks. Small penises (they look better to me). I see THEM as sexy. And I just don't know how to be normal like my friends.

    They'll talk about that football player that won the game and took off his shirt and swung it around and I'll be thinking about truckers. At night I think about these types of men and it's the only thing that gets me going (if you know what I mean). Nothing else turns me on. But I know I have no future with these types of men. My family would never accept it and I know that a relationship wouldn't work with these types of men. By the time I'm ready to start a family, they'd be ready to retire (if they already haven't) and not worry about anyone but themselves. On the other hand, I wouldn't be happy with a guy my age with those physical characteristics I dislike. I wouldn't be sexually attracted to him and sex would be weird if I wasn't turned on at ALL by him. I have quite a few guy friends and some of them are thick in the middle. I try to tell them that they look great but they just keep telling me that they need to go to the gym or lose weight or bring back their six packs. It makes me sick. And they are even more paranoid about going bald. I tell them that it's okay but they don't believe me. Guys my age are just too focused looking like the latest celebrity.

    I just don't know what to do. If I wait until I'm 40 to find an older gentlemen for me then it'll be too late to have kids. I don't want to be in my 60 (or older) by the time my kids graduate high school. I just want to be normal. But young guys these days are trying to be the very thing I hate. They work out. They grow out their hair. They shave their chests and legs. They are circumcised. And some even take pills that claim to make their penises bigger. I don't want that. So how do I solve this issue? How do I become normal like my friends? Because I really feel like this fetish is holding me back from having a normal, fun, college experience.
  • Aug 15, 2008, 01:35 PM
    N0help4u
    Why do you like perverted men when in your replies to others you stress values?
    In another question of yours you were desperate to have a guy interested in you and I told you that you are probably better off waiting until you finish college and establish your career life and you didn't like that answer but this post confirms that you really need to wait unless you want to go through your college town looking for the type you are attracted to cause I really doubt you are going to find someone you are satisfied with on your campus.
    You don't need to wait until you are 40 you just need to wait until you have graduated
    and have established where you are going to live and started your career by then you will be at least a couple to a few years older than you are now and a guy late 30's to 40ish won't seem quite as big of an difference.

    *BTW Most guys are circumcised, especially older guys because most hospitals it was a normal procedure.
    ***What do you have against circumcised?
  • Aug 15, 2008, 01:38 PM
    shane38
    How old are you? And who said it's a fetish. We all have different desires and needs,no two people are the same, that's what makes the world a colourful place. Some like thin some like fat some like bald some like hair. It depends on the individual, love is in the eye of the beholder

    Actually most circumcision is done on a religion basis as jews and muslims believe that it is more hygeinic
  • Aug 15, 2008, 01:47 PM
    N0help4u
    Hospitals did it as routine procedure unless you signed that you did not want it
    Routine Circumcision Reconsidered
  • Aug 15, 2008, 01:50 PM
    shane38
    I don't know but here in england they only do it if you ask, I wouldn't fancy it lol
  • Aug 15, 2008, 02:29 PM
    iDish
    Thanks shane for giving me an answer I can work with. Nohelp4u, leave my thread alone. I don't need your kind for help so don't give. There are plenty of other people who need help. Go bother them.

    Shane I'm 20. And thanks for explaining to me that there is nothing wrong with feeling the way that I do. But I'm still stuck on the problem of how to deal with my 'preferences'. How do I go about being normal with this kind of lifestyle seems unacceptable and nearly impossible?
  • Aug 15, 2008, 02:39 PM
    N0help4u
    Did I say there was anything WRONG in the way you feel?

    I am sorry you don't like realistic answers.

    I am trying to get you to look at this rationally that you don't have to wait until you are 40 like you stated.

    I am trying to found out how you realistically think you will find somebody that fits your idea of a man you will be happy with while you are surrounded by college kids and apparently no one that fits your ideal?


    Of course Shane gave you a good reply but he still hasn't answered any of your questions HAS HE??
  • Aug 15, 2008, 02:44 PM
    iDish
    Finding the man isn't the issue N0help4u. There are plenty of men that I've described that would love to have me. THAT is not my problem N0help4u. No where did I say that (if you bothered to pay attention). And I don't know why you are referencing my other threads. I've simply grown and you haven't. Now, as I said earlier, leave me and my threads alone and go bother someone else.
  • Aug 15, 2008, 02:48 PM
    Curlyben
    Due to OP's attitude Thread Closed

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