I love a guy but he don't or he is afraid because whenever he go into a relation ship it don't work.. we are close friends but I love him and I want to know what can I do to make him loves me as I do.. sometimes he treats me like I'm his girl friend.. and sometimes he don't even care.. and he told me let us be just friends because I don't want to lose you..
Please advise what can I do? Is the best for me to go away

Please I want an advise

If you can't handle just being friends then yes you do need to back away.

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Originally Posted by sadgirl1984

i love a guy but he don't or he is afraid coz whenever he go into a relation ship it dont work ..we are close friends but i love him and i want to know what can i do to make him loves me as i do..sometimes he treats me like im his girl friend ..and sometimes he dont even care..and he told me let us be just friends coz i dont wanna lose you..
please advise what can i do? is the best for me to go away

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It is time to move on. That does not mean you have to lose him as a friend. Let some time pass and then try to be friends.

I am on the other side here. I recently went through a pretty bad break up and a friend that I had recently started hanging out with told me she sees me as more than just a friend. The thing is she is a really nice girl and its really fun hanging out with her but I wouldn't want to jump into something that I don't feel ready for and risk losing her as a friend. The thing is that if being around him as a friend is too hard for you to do then you should take a step back.

Sounds like he probably does like you as a friend and maybe a bit more when it suits him. If you like him as a friend then you should cool off and stop trying to get with him - if its meant to be it will happen so don't force the issue. If you are friends with him purely on the basis that you hope it becomes more then I would cut all ties and move on as it will only cause heartache. Sometimes guys just like a challenge and if you are always there as a backup then you're not a challenge. I guess you will also need to take into account his age.. I know that a lot of blokes aren't particularly interested in settling down when they are younger, I know I wasn't but that doesn't mean that he won't be in a few years. Hope this helps.

Back off, and realize he doesn't feel as you do, and you can't change his mind. Give yourself a chance, to get over the feelings you have.