Hello there, I wasn't sure where to put the thread whether teens or health or whatever. But anyway I get teary eyed or emotional when confronted by anyone. Like ahm if a serious conflict arises.

Ok, so ill give an example. For example today I got into an argument with a guy at school. He kept on saying stuff that ticked me off, and the tense feeling that came from that put me over the edge. And I stood my ground by arguing back however when I did so I got teary eyed and emotional and it was difficult to keep a straight face (I wasn't backing down from a fight, and I'm nor a fighting person either) but the thing that bothers me is that when these situations occur I can't control it...

Why the heck am I getting teary eyed when I'm meant to be angery?

This sounds very similar to what I have dealt with over several years, through adolescence and young adulthood. From what has been explained to me over time is that your mental and emotional response to a threat, challenge, or any uncomfortable situation for that matter is triggering an unexpected response normally reserved for a sad or sorrowful experience, not an angry, aggressive response in which you would expect, such as a "fight or flight mode" in which adrenaline would be released in response. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and a generalized anxiety disorder over ten years ago. I was told that this behavior was linked to that; also adrenaline being released into my system at times when it should not, and not being released when appropriate, causing me to tear up and get emotional at times when I wanted to feel anger. This is something that may disappear with time as you age or become worse; there's no way to know. My doctor prescribed me a common medication, an SSRI, for the depression and anxiety. Amazingly, within a few months, the problem was gone. Do not ever fear seeing a physician for this; it is the best answer. He can also refer you to the specialist best suited to understand this. I really thought I had serious problems at first, but now with the help, the problem is solved...

How do they diagnose you with it. How do they find out?

My apologies for my delayed response, rebel-2. How are you doing? In my locality, there is a center called the Behavioural Health Division of our local hospital. This is the place I was referred to when I first tried to explain my situation to my primary care physician, as this is definitely a mental issue. This is how it worked for me, and from my understanding, this is the same format and progression they use everywhere...
I was assigned to a doctor of psychiatry, his nurse, and a very experienced counselor. The first person I sat down and spoke with was the counselor. Now this was not just any person off the street volunteering, this was an accredited, licensed, and very experienced person trained for understanding and assessment of any situation. Yes, they will ask you what seems like a 101 questions, but this is so important... your answers, your HONEST answers determine what it is you need to start feeling better again. They will probably ask things like: when do you remember this all starting? What exactly are you feeling, in detail, when these situations arise? Do you use drugs or drink excessively? Is there any type of mental issues anywhere in your biological family? That is so important, because behaviour like this really can be hereditary, even though your parents may have no issues, it can end up affecting anyone across the generational gaps, even if it or something similar has appeared only once. A past ancestor, chances are, may have had a similar problem, whether they are living or have long since passed. Anyway, you sitting down, one on one with this person is key. From your answers and feelings, they then, with your doctor, make an accurate diagnosis, and you will be surprised to know that you are not the only one afflicted with this pain and difficluty. I don't know how old you are or where you live, but your local hospital can tell you exactly where you need to go for the resources you need. And the best thing is, with or without health insurance, these services are very low cost. I hope this helps! Whatever questions you still have, ask them, please! You can and will get to the root of this and control it!

Ah I see. The thing is, I need to figure out for myself whether this is real or something that I'm considering to be a big deal. Im 17 and I'm just trying to figure out whether I have a problem or not. Im crap at be social, I dislike the talking And I feel tense most of the time. Its these things that put me over the edge. Its normal and I'm coping however... there "those days".

Anyway I thank you very much for you're reply,:)