Once a cheater always a cheater? Will he try coming back or not?
My ex and the girl he was cheating with got caught. I had posted asking if I should tell because I knew and her husband didn't. Her husband found out I guess like I did cell phone and emails. I'm just amazed at how fast it happened you guys were right I didn't have to do anything. They have stopped contact with each other and now I'm wondering what's going on with my ex. Does he think it was worth it to lose me and not get her? It's only been a few days since I moved out and I still have to go pick up and move out the rest of my stuff this weekend but he won't be there. We actually left off on good terms largely due to me not letting my anger and feelings of betrayal take over and him not knowing just how much of their secrets I knew. The last couple of days after I told him I was leaving we hung out, it wasn't exactly all happiness but it was us being friendly. The day I was leaving he gave me a hug and a kiss and I told him I would miss him and I loved him, that made him sad. I still have feelings for him after all I know. I'm wondering if we'd ever be friends or talk like we used to after all this, how will I know if this is even possible? I left on Monday and they stopped contact yesterday, so everything is so new. Is it self destructive to want to tell him I'd like to talk. Is it too soon to want to talk to him because he is probably going through some crazy emotions after all he's done (or maybe not who knows). I feel deep down inside since he had cheated he is done with me. I feel sad that he may not be thinking of me at all, maybe more sad the girl didn't leave her husband for him (I think he really might of thought this). I have to contact him to arrange for moving the rest of my stuff out. If he is cold which I am guessing he will be it is going to kill me. From everything I've found out they were both unhappy in their relationships and sought out a fantasy thing between themselves. Even if they ended up together they would have seen the grass isn't greener on the other side. I just wonder why my ex would put all that effort into that girl instead of us? He said he was going to try to work on us and was working on them. I feel like if he was willing to work on our relationship all the things he was trying to create with her he should have done for me. The first time we were going to split was right about after their fling began. So if he got rid of me to be with her and now that they have gotten caught and she chose to try to work out her marriage instead of my ex do you think he thought it was all worth it? I guess I want him to be guilty. I think he was caught up in the excitement of it all and was attracted to her before he met me so now that she was unhappy in her marriage they had this affair. I try to not think of about things but right now it is eating away at me still. I wish I could just get the angry stage and want to be mad at him but I'm just hurt and missing him. When I call him to arrange moving my stuff should I initiate conversation or just keep it simple just date/ time that's it? Should I let him know I miss him and want to know what he's going through or is that stupid? In my fantasy world I wish he was thinking he made the wrong choice and see that I was right for him. I want him to come back to me but the scary part is what he if he doesn't? I'm so confused by my irrational thinking:(