OK when me and my husband have sex its very hard for him to get in. he says my vagina is too tight and sometimes it hurts him to stay in me. And on top of it I've already had a child so I don't understand why I would be tight. What's wrong? Why am I so tight down there?

Cause you're lucky. Did you have stitches after childbirth? Have you tried using lube during intercourse?

Yeah she tore me inside and I had to have stitches. Yeah and that doesn't really work either

Do you think they could have stitched a little too much? Was this an issue before she was born?

Well I wasn't with my husband then. And there wasn't an issue with my daughters dad after I had her but he was rather small

Perhaps he is just too big. That happens. I would suggest lots and lots of lube. Perhaps try different brands.

Nah he is about normal

I mean too big for you... Has this been an issue your entire marriage? Or is this new?

This is new it wasn't an issue that long ago

Foreplay?

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this is new it wasnt an issue that long ago

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Are you under more stress lately? You could be squeezing muscles without realizing it... I think foreplay is a great idea. It will relax you, get you in the mood... Throw your inhibitions in the wind, be free, have fun.

Actually that makes it worse and I get tighter lol what's wrong with me

Is there something that you are uncomfortable with sex lately? Is he wanting to do something you don't? Have you gained or lost weight? Has he?

No not really. We have had a good relationship

Have you guys been trying to get pregnant again?

Yes we are trying right now to get pregnant. But it started before we were trying

But you probably knew before you suggested trying that you wanted another little rascal!:p It could be that you are stressed about not being able to conceive right away [read some other posts of yours], or you are focusing too hard on getting pregnant rather than enjoying the intimacy between you and your husband.

I would suggest lubes, oils, new positions... all that good stuff... Focus on making love to your husband, not on getting pregnant.

It's normal for the vagina to get tighter with arousal-- because the labia etc become engorged. I think maybe it's him, not the OP. Could he be having trouble getting in because he's not completely erect but doesn't want to acknowledge it? Just a thought. Having it hurt him does not sound normal either. The pressure of having to actually make a baby could easily affect his ability to stay hard, which would make it harder to get in and stay in, and possibly lead to discomfort for him, and then anxiety, which leads to you know what.

Hmm maybe

Just read that you are trying to get pregnant... were you ever on birth control? If so, when did you come off it?