Let me give everyone a little background information to everyone.

I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. For a while now every time we are together he just sits on his computer and invites over his friends. He never cleans up our apartment. When I ask him if anything is on his mind he always says nothing. I work just as much as he does and when I get home I end up doing all the cleaning. It's gotten to the point where he doesn't even drive anymore I always drive him places. I find myself becoming more of an angry person and I don't like it. I've tried talking to him about it but nothing changes.

Does anyone have any advice for me?

Please Help

Sunshine5

How long were the two of you together before you moved in? You may have moved too fast and now he may be burnt out.

Talk to him about this, and talk about ways to fix it.

Date night, fun sex, group dates, more together activities, limited computer time, assigned chores.

Leave.

You need to make him understand this, if he does good otherwise... leave.

What are you getting out of this deal? He's got someone that cleans up after him, drives him around that is willing to let him get away with putting in very little (if any) effort into making this a good situation for you too.

If he won't talk or help you more no matter how many times you tell him you need more, then you have to decide how much time you want to spend living like that before letting it go & treating yourself better.

Meanwhile, start putting into place a plan that doesn't include him if some dramatic improvement doesn't happen fairly quickly. The longer this goes on, the more resistant he will be to change something that works very well for him but is horrible for you.

Leave, leave, leave! To me you're acting like his mother when you should be his girlfriend! Don't clean, and don't drive, he'll get the hint. And if not, he will when all of his stuff is outside of the door and the key doesn't fit in the lock. ;)

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Originally Posted by LostInHisEyez

Leave, leave, leave!! to me you're acting like his mother when you should be his girlfriend!! dont clean, and dont drive, he'll get the hint. and if not, he will when all of his stuff is outside of the door and the key doesnt fit in the lock. ;)

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She would have to either legally evict him or get him to sign off the lease...

I think you already know the answer to this question, maybe you just needed affirmation.
So, dump his sorry behind and find yourself a man, not a freeloader

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Originally Posted by HighandDryinnNy

dump his sorry behind and find yourself a man, not a freeloader

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Ahh so simple... yet so TRUE :)

Never let anyone take you out of your element. If being with him is making you anger, probably because your getting annoy, then its best for you to move on. You already tried talking to him and that didn't work and you can't make him do anything, so you even continue to stay and in return it will make you madder or leave, for your own piece of mind. When you live with your partner that when you see their true colors and the colors that he showing, you don't like.

Leave him, find better and you will be better off

The more and more you do these nice things for him, the more he'll take advantage of you and it will get to the point where he'll treat as just another person in the apartment and not your girlfriend. Now you know what he's like living with and if you don't like it then leave, as others have implied. Don't let him take you for granted. He needs to love you and treat you like the lover you are.

You can't change a man but you can enforce your feelings and hopefully he will change, for himself but don't expect it. If he can't communicate with you then he's immature and obviously doesn't care how you feel.

You tried, it didn't work, now move on, before tou waste more time, energy, and emotion.