I was just dumped 5 days ago over text message. This girl was living with me and things seemed to be going fine. Our relationship did move fast, but it felt so right. We were in a relationship for 4 months. After a month she was saying that she loved me. After a month and a half she gradually moved into my apartment. After 2 months she is asking if we should find our own apartment. All of her ideas.
I was/am madly in love with her, even though she put me through emotional hell, even during the relationship. I found out that she had sex with two of my good friends before we started dating, one of which was my roommate. She said nothing happened, but then she got drunk one night and told me they had sex. My roommate informed me that it was a week before her and I started dating. So jealousy and distrust set in. We worked through it and then she had to go to a camp to be a counselor for 2 months. While she was gone she would call and text all the time telling me how much she missed me and loved me. She ended up coming home after a month because she couldn't cut it there. Things seemed to pick up right where they left off when she left. She told me she loved me, wanted marriage and children with me. Then about a week or two ago she started becoming distant. I would ask her if everything was all right, and she would blame it on the BC (birth control). Then out of the blue she started staying at her parents' house. So, I thought she needed some distance, so I gave it. Then after not seeing her for a couple days she texts me and says she's moving out and that we shouldn't get a place together. We talk about it when she comes over and she says we are still in a relationship and that she just needs distance. We move her stuff out and kiss goodbye. A half an hour later she texts me that she misses me. I didn't respond back because I was extremely confused at what just took place.
The next day I go to see her at her place for about an hour because she was leaving for a trip the next day. We seem fine, and she kisses me goodbye and hugs me tightly. While she is gone she barely contacts me. Then I get a text saying we are over and that she needs something else. I call her and she is drunk in her hotel room. She is telling me that I am boring, blank, and immature. Which is weird because she was the one that was always standoffish and never wanted to go out and do stuff. She also says that she has been seeing this guy and that he is cooler than I am. I honestly just met this guy around the same time she started becoming distant. We even worked together the weekend she was seeing him. She hangs up on me and the next day is texting and calling to apologize for dumping me so harshly. I give it a day and then we talked and I play it off like it's no big deal and that it just wasn't meant to be obviously. I also told her that I can now see what kind of person she truly is.
This is my first real relationship, and the first girl I ever loved. I'm so lost right now, and I feel so manipulated. I have sheltered myself from relationships like this, because I was afraid of this happening. I took a chance and got smashed.
I have been going out every night with friends and trying to have a good time, just to show her that I'm moving on, but I can't. It's so tough. Sorry this is so long, but this is the first time I have been able to rant to an unbiased party. Any advice would help! Thanks!
She is picking up the rest of her stuff later today. We haven't spoke since Sunday. Also, I hung out with the guy she has been seeing a couple nights ago and was very cordial to him. She was texting him all night while I was sitting there. Why am I doing this to myself?
Also, she has HPV, and I'm pretty sure I'm a carrier now.