Originally Posted by talaniman
First and foremost, get your own head together and change the dynamic of this relationship, by being a good dad, and leaving her alone except, where the child is concerned.
This will allow you to step back, gain a better less emotional perspective and see if she misses you or not. It also will allow you to redirect your priorities to your child and yourself and take her out of the mix.
Stop having sex with her, as this clouds the real issues you face and blinds you to the reality of your situation. Stop the relationship talk altogether and only discuss the well being of your child.
You have allowed yourself to be put in a very defensive position where you will stay confused and wondering about the wrong things and distracted from the facts. Your being kept on the back burner.
Yes you probably do need to make changes and improvements, and she does keep you close enough to see any.
The goal is to work on you without her influence, as she is the only one who can decide to let you back, and its all on her terms.
The only way to change anything is to stand up for yourself and be yourself. Whatever you want in life starts right there.