Hello everybody, y'all give so much great advice, so I have a question. How do you know if a shy guy still likes you? Because there's this boy and he used to always flirt with me, like try to hold my hand and give me everything and talk to me, but I liked him as a friend then. But now I like him so much more and I want to be more than friends, but he doesn't act like he used to anymore. He doesn't look at me much, or well when I look at him he's not looking at me, and we don't talk as much anymore. And also, he was always real shy so I don't know if he's just being more shy or something.

So I kind of want to just go up and talk to him, but I'm super shy myself, so what should I do, just wait until he shows more signs (and what signs are there?), or just go up now. Because I reallllllllllly don't want to get rejected or him say something like "Oh, I did like you, but not anymore", ugggh just thinking about it makes my heart break.:(

Well I would imagine that it took a lot for this shy boy to tell you that he liked you or was interested. When you told him you only liked him as a friend I would imagine he felt rejected, just like you are worried you would feel. This boy may still have feelings for you, but it took a lot to put himself out there one time and he is probably scared to do it again, so he just avoids you more now. I think if you now are more interested in him, you will have to be the one to make the first move, since he has already made an attempt and been hurt. Good luck

Sorry if I didn't make it clear but he didn't actually tell me he liked me, and I didn't tell him that I didn't really like him like that. But I understand what you're saying. He did though try to make passes at me and I didn't really catch them, so I guess he does kind of feel rejected. I never thought of it that way, thanks justwantfair.

But I still don't know what I should say or do.

How old are you? I would just talk to him and tell him that you like him. If he doesn't feel the same way, then at least you know and you don't have to wonder.

Well, I'm 16, excuse me from wondering, but why does that matter? (that's not in a mean tone)

And yeah, I know I should just go up and talk to him, but how should I approach him, because when people say that, that makes me think of going straight up to him, which catches him off guard, and say "I like you. Do you like me?" and he would be all like woah!

I was just trying to get a better feel of the situation. Do you have any classes together?

No, he doesn't go to my school, we go to church together.

Hmm... maybe you could ask him if he'd like to get breakfast before or after some time. If you're both shy, I don't think you need to be totally up front. You could just suggest hanging out and you guys could see where things go.

Thanks, imangileri, I guess I could suggest hanging out, but I just don't know how to approach him, it seems like he's always doing something else.

Any suggestions on approaching?

Do you ever get to church about the same time? You could just casually walk up alongside him. "hey, how are you? are you doing anything later?" just something simple like that.