Pros and Cons list what to do.
Ok here goes...
I have been weighing the pros and cons of staying with my current boyfriend and have talked with several friends but haven't solved anything.
First I would like to start by saying he is the best man that I've been with and the thought of leaving him hurts my heart.
He wouldn't cheat on me (hopefully anyway. He was cheated on and left by his fiancé of four years) He doesn't drink. He's good with money. He is smart and funny. He is good looking. He's completely honest no matter what. He is a lot of things that my ex's were not basically.
On the other hand:
We seem to not be sexually compatible (when he is ready to have sex he basically says pull down your pants and that's all the foreplay I get) I've made gentle suggestions when we've been together about kissing my neck and touching me but it didn't sink in. When I've asked him to try oral he goes right for it and expects to get me off within a few minutes and then gets frustated when it doesn't happen. And he gets more frustrated because I can help myself and be done in a minute or two.)
Second: He has had one job in the last six months that lasted two months and has spent the last two weeks playing on the internet and tells me he is looking for a job
Third: He is absolutely stubborn and set in his ways, example he has stated that he would never go to a doctor for any reason. Not even if I asked him. For example: a broken arm or leg, a heart attack etc. Now I know that you can live your life without having to go to the dr for something serious but not to go ever and possibly shorten your life span because you believe in natural selection or whatever... I'm still having problems wrapping my mind around that.
Now the question:
Are these reasonable reasons to not be with someone? Am I being petty and expecting too much?
Help!! Please!