My fiancée and I have been together off and on for almost 3 years. We lived together for about a year and separately for a little over a year. After my sons birth I found out she had been talking to another guy. I don't know the specifics, she swears they never were physical, but they were saying I love you within 2 months and talking about kids. It was very hard for me but eventually I learned how to move on. As soon as I was ready to be apart she came back around claiming her love. I have been hesitant until about a month ago when I just started feeling connected again. I have now found out that she has been talking and hanging out w/ a bartender at a bar she hangs out at. I have never been in love before, and was very happy and successful being single. I am devistated and confused about what to do and of her motives. She blames her actions on me and says my lack of attention and other things have driven her away, and now she is confused about how she feels. There are so many more details, but that is the jist. What should I do. She claims she loves me, but is confused.

She keeps coming back to you because you are what is comfortable to her, you're familiar, and you probably provide for her what other's aren't. Don't let her take advantage of that. I would suggest moving on, don't have a romantic relationship with her, but stay in your child's life.

Give it a time. You two need to clear your minds.

You might tend to let her back in your life due to your having a child together but you can be a father without being involve with her. She seems unsure about what she want but she might want her cake and eat it too. Let her continue to do what she does without you because the road she going might only lead to pain and loniless. You don't need any drama in your life and the only person that should, and most likely will, turn your life upside down should be your child. Stop allowing her to enter your life with lies because two adults communicate on ways to improve their relationship, which is something she don't want to do. By the way, what are your ages?

She just turned 27 I am 29