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  • Aug 12, 2008, 01:33 PM
    Hutch529
    I want to get back with my ex who broke up with me, she is dating other guys
    So, my girlfriend and I were both married when we met. We both ended up divorcing our spouses, not because of our relationship with each other, but our own separate reasons. However, we did cheat on our spouses with one another. We started dating but certain things started happening and trust issues began tearing us apart. More of a trust issue with me about her then her with me. She is very outgoing, independent and attractive. I told her I wanted us to work on our trust issues together and offered up some solutions. She said the issues were mine and I needed to fix myself and she did not want to help the situation because she did nothing wrong. Anyway, things got worse and she left me. One day recently, she told me she couldn't wait to see me and had told me that we might be able to talk about a relationship again. I showed up late one night unannounced and she had another man at her place. She said it was just companionship and not really a date. She was on the beach with him at a bonfire alone until 1100 at night. A date in my eyes. We are broken up but that killed me to see. I gave her, her house key and garage remote and left. She called me and told me it wasn't what it seemed and asked me to come back to make love to her. Propbabaly because she felt guilty. I was a fool and did just that. This put the ball back in her court. Two days later, she called and told me to come by to make love to her again. She said she likes the sex with us but then asked me to leave. I asked her if the guy she was with was a date and she said no once again but that she would go to dinner with him if he asked her to. I told her I can't handle the thought of her being with another man. She told me she wants to take things slow with me and start as friends but then she introduces sex. My mind is very confused. I want her back but I can't handle her seeing other people. What the heck do I do?
  • Aug 12, 2008, 03:57 PM
    HeadsHigh
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    I want her back but I can't handle her seeing other people.
    You cannot control what she is doing. You have two choices put up & shut up and see where things go, or you make it clear that you don't want her seeing other people and thinking she gets you too by walking away. I know which guy I'd be.

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    My honest view point is that she is just using you for sex, you like her a lot more than she likes you and you should cut your losses NOW!

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