Hi again,
Its going great after all our history and after I posted last time with this one guy I have been seeing. The communication is much better, I have been making more of an effort and it seems to be paying off, as so is he. We see each other more regularly, about 3 times a week BUT I have a niggling thought in the back of mind and am not sure if I am just being silly and paranoid because everything else is good.

I am almost 40 with 3 teenage kids, my house is hectic and I am quite happy to go over to his nice quiet place or back to his and sleep over at the weekend after nights out as its only about 5 miles from me. However, this has become a bit of a habit and he never really offers to pick me up, I always seem to drive to him. At the moment its not bothering me too much as I don't feel it's a massive effort, but I know that if it carries on as 'routine' I am going to get paranoid that the only effort he really makes is arranging our social plans and putting his hand in his pocket. I am being silly, what do others think?
Thanks

Are you looking for something to sabatoge your thinking, and this relationship??

Hell, no not at all, its great at the moment. To be honest Ive been reading a few 'self-help' relationship books and they all seem to be saying conflicting things about how much effort a man should put in etc etc.. Now I am thinking maybe I should put them in the bin and go with what I feel is right and what I, as an individual want !