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  • Aug 11, 2008, 02:55 PM
    this8384
    3 years later he "needs closure?"
    Give me your opinions on this:

    The last time I spoke to my ex was January '08. The conversation was less than 5 minutes long and only took place because he owes me money. Yesterday at 1:00am, he decided to send me a message which consisted of a lot of complaints over things I did or didn't do in our relationship. I'd like to point out at this time that we haven't been together for 3 years! He says he needed to send me this message to "get some sort of closure."

    I'm completely baffled by this. He got married and has a 5 month old child with his wife; what more closure does he need from me? Is this a drunken online rant directed at me or is he just certifiable?
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:00 PM
    Handyman2007
    If he is a drunk, he will always have something to "harp" on you for. IT's in his nature. My first wife was a drunk (God rest her soul-she passed away 4 years ago) and for the 14 years after we were divorced, she made it a point to try to make my life miserable when she was on a real drunk. Let it go, Ignore him, he will eventually go away...
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:02 PM
    amricca
    Ignore him, what closure does he need at 1:00 am? You had a relationship, it didn't work out, both moved on and has a family now. I suspect a drunken rant and some certifiable behavior, looks like you dodged a bullet there.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:11 PM
    this8384
    He's not really a drunk, I'm just wondering what the hell he was doing awake at 1AM on a Sunday *lol*
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:12 PM
    Spikeman
    Ignore him and leave it at that
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:14 PM
    amricca
    He was thinking about you apparently. Flattering or scary?
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:25 PM
    N0help4u
    Is he seeing a counselor that has been filling his head with you need closure?
    I can't imagine A GUY in another relationship out of the blue 3 yrs later suddenly wanting closure!
    I wouldn't bother but keep the email in case you ever do have reason to need to reply.

    Maybe it was just getting it off his chest how he felt. I am sure you could reply with your side of the story but most often the other doesn't see it from your eyes even when you explain it so why bother.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 04:09 PM
    talaniman
    Whatever it was, or whatever it means, it doesn't deserve a response, nor time thinking about him. One of those things that makes you go "HMMMM!".
  • Aug 11, 2008, 04:30 PM
    Romefalls19
    Simply delete the message and forget it was every sent. He has no meaning or bearing on your life anymore

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