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  • Aug 10, 2008, 08:00 PM
    rocker550
    My ex is confusing me!
    Okay so... we were going out for about 5 months. We had the best times together, yes.. we were in love. Until one day she wanted to go on a break so she can spend more time with god and her family (this happened two weeks ago). But I noticed whenever she calls me, she's with her friends at great adventure... at the movies... at the mall... this caught my attention. So a couple days ago I bring it up I say-- how's the break going for you? She says its going good blah balh blah... then I say-- if you still have any feeling for me can you let me know because I feel like everything will come crashing down.. that was when she told me "im not in love with you". She basically said she lost feeling for me but she loves me as her closest friend.. and I broke down. Of course I let her know I'm still in love with her.

    So my friend says she overheard her talking to somegirl telling her she likes a guy. But when I talked to my ex abuot it, she just said she thought he was cute- never actually liked him. **** the friend that told me this has a crush on me, so it could be she's trying to get me to stop liking her********

    So I'm talking to her friend/my friend... but she's rele close to her. And she knew I was upset, and she tells me I have to move on.. but she has a strong feeling we're going to get back together.. does she know something I don't?

    Soooooooooo I want to write a song for her to try and win her back...


    ??
  • Aug 10, 2008, 08:22 PM
    HighandDryinnNy
    5 months? Move onnnn, write that song for a girl you want to win over, when the emotions are new and fresh and beautiful- as compared to some really pathetic "red light pledge" silverstein song that we've all heard before
    p.s. she wasn't woman enough to tell you her true feelings, don't bare yours
  • Aug 10, 2008, 08:24 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    She wants to sit you on the back burner so if her current expiditons don't work out, she can get you back. Don't let that happen. Get over her, move on. Don't let her use you.
  • Aug 10, 2008, 09:02 PM
    talaniman
    You hang around, and keep talking to her, and about her, because you want her back, and will take the smallest hope, when what you need to do is stop the head games she plays, and heal, so you can move on.

    That means cut the contact, and conversations about her with friends, and focus on what you enjoy doing without her. When you stop the contact, you stop the confusion.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 12:53 AM
    Spikeman
    No song no matter what you feel like doing. This girl has already moved on and found a new guy and with you playing a song it will only add to the pain you will feel. Quite frankly NC her and move on with yourself.
  • Dec 14, 2011, 05:43 PM
    FF_88
    There's probably more to than "just wanting a break to be with God and family...". I suspect that she could have been sending hints your way previously but ones that you may not have caught.

    Writing the song would just start a tirade of "self-pity' like emotions. It won't help you get over her . I think it would do just the opposite. She left you. There is no need for you to "win" her back. You did nothing wrong and you don't have to do this to yourself. She lost you - and not the other way round. If anyone, she would be the one that has to do something to win you back.

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