Dealing with grief and depression?
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site and have found a lot of the insight you offer very helpful so I thought it might be a good idea to get a different perspective on my current situation.
Im 25 and not really sure what I want to do with my life, recently I moved to New Zealand with my boyfriend of 2 years he's 21. He left all his friends and family behind to move with me.
It was hard to live together at first and we both worked very hard to get ourselves financially supported. We have been living together for 10 months and he's my best friend. Our problem is sexual. Since we moved sex has become a rarity with the lights off.
I know that relationships slow down etc but this keeps cropping up. He says he has no sex drive and doesn't even masturbate. Now I've tried my best to do what I can but I'm at a loss as to how to solve the problem. He says he's depressed as he is unhappy in his job and a family member and a friend have passed away in the time that we moved. I don't know whether it is grief that is affecting him or what. I've offered to go to the doctors with him to see what we can do. Every time we argue he always says he misses home and wants to go back. I've never stopped him and only want him to be happy. I love him so much I would rather he be happy than miserable but when I mention this he thinks I'm trying to ditch him. If I was selfish I would tell him I want him stay here with me.
This is only my second relationship and the second person I've slept with so I'm confused and hurt. Im prepared to give my all but I don't know if that's enough. Any ideas?
Thanks for your help.