Hi,
My girlfriend/fiance is having doubts about us. In the past 2 years, we have broken up and gotten back together 3 times. Each time its been because she thinks that this isn't right and that she doesn't know if I am the one for her. She also cheated on me once. She didn't sleep with him, but she kissed him and then broke up with me. A month later I forgave her and we got back together.
Well, things went by for 2 months and then she broke up with me again for the same reason- she didn't feel this was right and she didn't know if I was the one. This breakup lasted about 3 weeks. I spoke to her often throughout the 3 weeks and she had suicidal thoughts . Her parents just had gotten divorced, she had broken up with me and she had lost her job. The night we got back together, I drove down to her to be with her and just tell her that everything was going to be all right. I told her I loved her and she told me that she loved me too. And we got back together that night.
That night was one month ago, and now she is saying the same things again. When I ask if she loves me, she says that sometimes she does and sometimes she doesn't. She told me that she isn't happy and that she doesn't know if this can work. She tells me that she isn't going to break up with me again because she says that the only way that things can end is if I let things go. She says that she will continue to try as long as I think that things will work.
I really do want things to work and I believe they can. I love her with all my heart, but it seems as though she doesn't love me with all of hers. We go through periods of weeks where things seem fine, only to have periods where things seem like they are going to end. I just need some advice on what to do in this situation. I realize that maybe this isn't the healthiest relationship, but we have survived this much for this long, I want to make this work.
On top of that, I'm afraid that she may become suicidal again if I break things off. She did the last time we broke up. I really care about her deeply and I don't want her to be hurt. I realize this relationship may be on its last legs, but at the same time, I feel that there is still a good chance we can work things out and have a lasting loving and successful relationship.
Please help.