How can I do so I can stop thinking about my first real love.. a person who I shared my all.. cheated on me, her family hated me for not been rich, nor white nor having light color eyes.. she latina as well.. am making good in life am smart and investin in productive things.. never done drugs.. I work a lot lately to have a better future but she just wants to go out clubbin, drinking and dancing wit random people... I can't have that in life.. she had dating webs which I found out by searchin trough her things talking to one of her exs etc.. Now I understand she not good to me but I get upset when I realise that notthin will be the same and I miss those things I did with her.. after all we did lived togheter for some time.. but I feel as if I really don't know her because of what I thought of her really wasn't her.. but just the feeling is there and sadness for her not been what I expected and feeling used :confused:

Hi dlatino,

I can understand your hurting right now, but having read your post I'd say you had a lucky escape. She was not who you thought she was, it's good that you found out in time.

There will be a lovely decent girl out there some where especially for you, it will not matter that you have no money, or the wrong colour eyes etc.. She will love you for who you are.

You need to move on stop dwelling on her and go out and do something.
Eventually you will feel much better.

Takecare

dlatino, this girl and her family are no better than you. You're obviously a sound guy with plenty of ideas for the future. You look after yourself and clearly care about being good to others. You know yourself: "I can't have that in life". That's powerful knowledge. Don't doubt yourself.

This girl cheated on you man. That's no good. Stop putting her on a pedastal and realise that she is not the person you thought she was. She didn't treat you good. She didn't respect you. You know that's awful behaviour, and you deserve much, much better.

If her family couldn't accept you because you're not rich... well more fool them. Perhaps they'd rather see their daughter with a rich guy who cheats on her? If they can't see past cash then they're not worth knowing. If they can't see past your skin colour then they're definitely not worth knowing.

Breaking up is sad, but it fades. Keep doing the things you know you like, and be HAPPY that you have the strength to know what they are. There are plenty of girls out there who will be true to you, believe me. Get out there and live your life and you will find them.

Go steady