Possible child molestation?
Okay so? I have been divorced for 7 years, that is also the age of my beautifull daughter jess. My ex-husband david was in her life until she was two. Then I was in a relationship with a wonderful man jason for 4 years. 4 years in which the ex-husband was not in her life at all. Now that I am not in that relationship with jason anymore and he has been court ordered to pay child support, david has decided to be envolved in her life again. My daughter has always had this odd (wiggly dance) and (bedwetting) thing she does. I have taken her to a counselor and she was diagnosed with anxity. My oldest daughter Iesha has suspected that david has sexually molested jess. I looked up the signs and symptoms and she has 5 out of 8 of the traits. I'm unsure if she has been molested because the symptoms are very similar to that of anxity. Thus, far the counselors have been unable to identify any concrete factors that would indicate any abuse. Jess. Doesn't really like to go to his house but she always says she has fun while she is there. I have asked her direct specific answers and she is very defensive and denies any such things happening, she doesn't really get into details about what she does while she is there either. Since jason and I are still friends, him and jessica had a beautiful relationship where in her mind he is dad and that's who she prefers to call dad. I had asked him for his help and guidance in this matter. He said that he always felt that there was something "off" about david and he didn't think that I should allow her to spend the nights with her. Now, I can take this one of two ways 1) he really means what he says or 2) he is upset and jelous that jess is spending time with her biological dad. - one of the main reasons we broke up is because he found out that he had a 7 year old little girl, in which he now does not get to visit or see- anyhow, I'm concerned about it but can't get her to confess anything and I don't think the counselors are getting much more out of her than Iam. Should I just stop letting her go with her dad? Keep seeking answers? Talk to her more or, what? I don't think I'm crazy, just a very concerned mother who doesn't want to believe or make false acusations about my daughters dad or the fact that this may be happening. Am I in denial? What would you do? What should I do?