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  • Aug 8, 2008, 11:44 PM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    Why won't my mother let me buy gifts for my girlfriend
    OK I am 13 years of age I am dating my dream girl (pretty,funny,nice,smart and doesn't judge me by what I look like) personaly I feel I'm not good-looking but lets get back to the question I've been dating for a week now and I just ran into money and I've have been toalking to my mother and I told her I wanted to take her to the movies and surprise her with a gift and as soon as my mom heard the gift she looked angry and she almost forbid me from seeing her and I was so confused can someone help me
    Thanks to anyone that try's :confused: :)
  • Aug 8, 2008, 11:45 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    1. A week isn't long enough to buy a gift.

    2. your mother doesn't want you to spend money on a girl... for no reason. You should save it so you can buy yourself (or your mother) something nice.
  • Aug 9, 2008, 11:10 AM
    JBeaucaire
    What gift?
  • Aug 9, 2008, 01:33 PM
    N0help4u
    Why did your mom get upset over the gift? Did it cost too much to suit her (which I can understand) or where you wanting to buy her a ring or other piece of jewelry or something too personal?
    Ask your mother what she feels is appropriate and what she feels isn't appropriate for your age as far as dating. That way you look like you are taking her advice into consideration and trying to be responsible. Ask her if you would be allowed to invite her over for dinner and to watch a DVD. If she is okay with that maybe you could even help cook the meal.
  • Aug 9, 2008, 01:44 PM
    hjpan
    Ahem... 13 years old, dating one week... want to buy gifts?

    That is hilarious... you're exaggerating one-week relationship.

    I didn't purchase gifts for my ex until it was... 3 months maybe?
  • Aug 9, 2008, 01:57 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Yes, 13, dating for one week and a dream girl and buying a gift. OK, I too have to laugh I know at 13 this seems to seroius and a love of a life, but your mom knows that it will be someone else next week or next month. Also knows that she does not want a 13 year old too serious most likely also
  • Aug 9, 2008, 03:20 PM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    I've known emma for years and together liked each other I just ran into some birthday money I was planning to buy her a $40 iPod and then take her to the movies (which my mom will let me)
  • Aug 9, 2008, 03:36 PM
    mimi03
    Your mom probably just wants you to keep this in perspective. You've known the girl for some time but you are 13 and have only been "dating" for a week. Buying a gift would be a little too soon for most people, even adults :)
    It's a nice thought but save it for later!

    Just stick with the movie. She'll appreciate that, save the iPod idea for an actual occasion (a birthday, holiday).
  • Aug 9, 2008, 03:38 PM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    Thanks everyone for the advice
  • Aug 9, 2008, 03:41 PM
    N0help4u
    iPod definitely more for a 'we have been together for a year now' type gift and still not very age appropriate money wise.
  • Aug 9, 2008, 05:34 PM
    flash84x
    The money was a birthday gift for YOU, not to spend on a girl that you have been dating for a week... I don't know but at 13 $40 was a good amount of money... keep it for yourself, go to the movies and I think that is plenty
  • Aug 11, 2008, 03:19 AM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    But I feel guilty because she has been in churchill for a week and is coming back on Wednesday and she said she was going to buy me something. And I don't want to seem like a mootch or something
  • Aug 11, 2008, 05:10 AM
    Rabbit91
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Mrcuddlesworth
    OK i am 13 years of age i am dating my dream girl (pretty,funny,nice,smart and doesnt judge me by what i look like) personaly i feel im not good-looking but lets get back to the question i've been dating for a week now and i just ran into money and i've have been toalking to my mother and i told her i wanted to take her to the movies and surprise her with a gift and as soon as my mom heard the gift she looked angry and she almost forbid me from seeing her and i was so confused can someone help me
    thanks to anyone that try's :confused: :)

    I know right dude!

    I went out with this total babe (she was so dreamy) when I was 8. After 2 hours I asked my mommy if I could buy her a house. My mommy broke the relationship up and I had to go to my room. :(
  • Aug 11, 2008, 05:14 AM
    Rabbit91
    But seriously dude.. your 13 / 1 week. Maybe your mah is thinking "waste of money if u guys break up" I mean a week is hardly gift worthy material. And on that note.. I will assume you are jobless. Money = gift = spend on yourself.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 05:15 AM
    N0help4u
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Mrcuddlesworth
    but i feel guilty because she has been in churchill for a week and is coming back on wednesday and she said she was gonna buy me something. and i dont want to seem like a mootch or something

    You are not a mooch if somebody buys you something. A mooch is when you expect something that another does not owe you. You can tell her that you want to buy her something when you have a little money and can get to the mall. In the meantime maybe make her a cute thank you for being my friend card or something homemade.
    She said she is going to buy you something. That could be in the $5. price range --much different that the $50. + price range.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 06:16 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Mrcuddlesworth
    but i feel guilty because she has been in churchill for a week and is coming back on wednesday and she said she was gonna buy me something. and i dont want to seem like a mootch or something

    Next time you go to churchill for a week, you can buy her something.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 06:18 AM
    N0help4u
    Personally I like the My boyfriend went to Churchill and all I got was the T shirt.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 06:20 AM
    ScottGem
    I don't blame your mom. You seem to want to grow up too quickly. At 13 you shouldn't really be dating one on one (hanging out in a group is OK). You definitely should be spending that much money on a gift. Gifts in that price range should be reserved for serious relationships. While I understand you may think it serious, at 13 you will probably go thorugh a dozen or so "serious" relationships before you become an adult.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 06:25 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    Plus, take it from a guy who spoils girls... ipods, cameras, you name it... I've bought it.

    ... keep your money. You tend to regret it.
  • Aug 16, 2008, 11:02 AM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    OK but something really weird just happened my mother woke me up at noon today and told me to give this to emma (my girlfriend) and it was an expensive perfume stuff that's like 100's I I was like??

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