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  • Aug 8, 2008, 11:36 PM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    Body growth
    Hello I am wondering if this is normal or am I a freak
    I an 13 years of age and I'm am 6'2 and weigh 230 pounds.
    All I ever hear from my friends are fat jokes and how they don't think I belong in this world and other the other hand my girlfriend is saying ignoring them> I've tried this for many many years and I've found it doesn't work so I got into Emo
    I don't cut my wrist I just get my knife and cut my legs or somewhere no one will see
    I'm afraid if they see they will make fun of me more and I don't know what do. I am so confused I just really need help:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:
  • Aug 9, 2008, 02:20 AM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    I'm soooo ing confused
  • Aug 9, 2008, 11:30 PM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    Someone help me
  • Aug 9, 2008, 11:50 PM
    KalFour
    Hey there.
    Well, you're certainly very tall for your age. And in Kg, your weight is just over 100... but for 6 ft 2, that's not enormous.
    I was very tall for a girl for most of my childhood (until I was about 14, then everyone else caught up). Your height you can't help, but you shouldn't want to even if you could. I always found taller guys more attractive. I understand that being so tall probably makes you feel very conspicuous, and it's difficult for you, but it'll only be temporary. By your mid-teens, everyone around you will be growing fast. You'll always be tall, but you won't stand out so much.
    As for the weight, if you're really worried about it you could exercise more and try to moderate your diet to include more fruit and veg. But it's your body, so unless YOU want to change the way you look, don't feel pressured.

    If your friends talk to you like that, it's THEIR problem, not yours. You could probably benefit by finding some new friends.
    Your girlfriend sounds lovely. You should listen to her. And the fact that you HAVE a girlfriend obviously means that you can't be too repulsive. Think of her when you're feeling unhappy.

    As for the cutting... well I don't know how to say this subtley, so... DON'T DO IT! It is dangerous, and can be very addictive. It also leaves scars that I'm sure you will regret in a few years time. When you're feeling really upset, beat the hell out of a pillow or teddy bear or something, don't make the pain worse for yourself. Most cutters do it as a plea for attention, but the fact that you're deliberately making sure yours are in a location that will be difficult to find really worries me. There are so many other steps you could be taking before resorting to something so damaging.
    I went through a phase of biting and clawing myself when I felt depressed... I did this because I knew the marks wouldn't be identified as "emo" for people who saw them, they'd look like natural scars.
    The trouble with cutting is that it can be gratifying and difficult to stop. It can be satisfying for emotional pain to be made physical. But in the long run, it offers no help. When you're feeling that bad, you need a way out without harming yourself. Call a friend, talk to a relative, ask your girlfriend to come over and put her arm around you. Anything is better than hurting yourself.

    Take care,
    Kal
  • Aug 10, 2008, 02:15 AM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    Well I know this sounds I bit scary and stuff but today I was hanging out with my friends at my school(last week teens got drunk broke bottles everywhere) so I got my foot caught on the bottom of a fence and fell and landed in glass and cut a 2 inch cut in my hand and I really injoyed it. If I did this alone I don't know what would have happened but I kind of like how I have cuts,bruises on my body, or when noes and stuff are broken
    Like in the beginging of summer break I broke my toe on the first day of workand enjoyed
    But I recently quit to have fun.
  • Aug 10, 2008, 02:17 AM
    Mrcuddlesworth
    And I forgot to mention it I was bleeding bad I was getting dizzy and stuff
    When I cut my hand on the class
    And on the ground of my school is a lot of blood
  • Feb 18, 2009, 09:24 AM
    oscarlicous

    If your friends make fun of your then don't hang around them. I have anger problems, so if anybody said something like that to me, they would have a busted lip or a black eye. Anyway, if your friends are treating you that way then they aren't considered "friends".if your girlfriend likes the way you are and you like the way you are then poo on them, they can make fun of themselves if you leave them a lone.
  • Feb 18, 2009, 09:29 AM
    oscarlicous
    Your not a freak. AT ALL! Nobody is nobodies normal either. Trust me I have problems like you and I don't call myself that. I have called myself a nerd or a loser sometimes. But have a little self confidence about yourself.
  • Feb 18, 2009, 02:36 PM
    chrissymarie

    Tell your parents what's going on. Just do it.

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